phillips
philips
volvo
logo looks different?
captain crunch
cap'n crunch
mt rushmore
looks different?
berenstain bears
berenstein bears
neopolitan
Neapolitan
kit-kat
kitkat
luke i am your father
no i am your father
beam me up scotty
never said?
steven segal
steven seagal
chick-fil-a
chik-fil-a
chic-fil-a
your answers will surprise you
more:
https://www.reddit.com/r/MandelaEffect/comments/3fyrmi/informal_survey_regarding_the_mandela_effect/
sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_effect
https://www.reddit.com/r/MandelaEffect/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confabulation
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Large_Hadron_Collider#Inaugural_tests_.282008.29
Sunday, May 1, 2016
Saturday, April 16, 2016
the problem with sarcasm with negative people
I can't handle sarcasm said in a different language. It's mental
overload and it confuses me. If someone is consistently positive or
consistently negative, there's a pattern emerging that if they were
sometimes negative or positive about something, respectively, I would
understand that the signal as a connotation for note-taking. However, if
someone talks in both ways where positive statements are said,
overly-negative statements are said, and overly-sarcastic statements are
said, then it confuses the hell out of me because I'm playing catch up
the whole time. Not only am I supposed to translate the statement at
face value of how things are stated, I have to decipher if the statement
is genuinely positive, overly negative, or overly sarcastic. Overly
negative statements are discard and I have to move forward from them.
Overly sarcastic statements are identified where I have to take the
positive connotations of the hyperbole and twist it so that it's a
negative statement in order to receive the point.
The amygdala gets really tired from deciphering all these signals and instead of properly understanding the statements said by an individual, I can't seem to file these statements fast enough. Instead, positive statements that do not sting as much as negative statements gets disregarded with the negative statements because I have grown a high tolerance for negative statements. This high tolerance of negative-statement abuse makes it so that positive statements don't seem to register as much. If a person is naturally negative, negative statements are the litmus test in order to interpret whether or not if the next statement or the whole message is consistently negative, positive, or falsely positive with sarcasm. A falsely positive sarcastic statement makes the equation even worse because I have to understand that the person is trying to overstate with hyperbole that something is wrong instead of something is right. Upon translation, I have to take into connotation that the literal message that I received is not true and the polar opposite meaning has to be interpreted.
Positive people have the baseline for positive messages and positive thinking. Negative people have the baseline for negative messages and negative thinking. The equilibrium for an overly-negative mind where some positive thoughts occur is mildly negative, but I can't take every positive thought that comes out as literal because of impending false-positive sarcastic doom. If false-positive sarcasm is involved with negative people who once in a while say genuinely positive things, positive statements that would otherwise be interpreted as genuine would be cast aside as "pending to be translated for negative connotation" because of possible false-positive sarcasm.
As a result: openly straightforward positive statements gets translated wrongly with a negative connotation or message. Negative statements are still translated as negative statements because of the benchmark for how negative people think naturally. Falsely positive sarcastic messages that are blatantly untrue are just a reinforcement that other positive statements are also untrue and that the opposite has to be interpreted. Therefore, when a negative person says a majority of negative things with some genuinely positive messages as well as sarcastic things, his natural equilibrium is still mildly negative. However, the interpreter of his words gets mixed up and wrongly accuses him that all his statements have negative connotation no matter if it's positive or negative, sarcastic or genuine. In addition to messages that are lost in translation, all of the interpreted words become nothing to be readily relied upon because every statement becomes something to ignore and trash once the amygdala is overloaded, even the genuine positive messages.
Over time, there is an assumption made that for every large percentage of negative statements, there is a small chance for genuinely positive statements, and a sliver of false-positive sarcastic statements. This assumption is wrong but the amygdala takes these shortcuts when receiving a message from the same person over time. If an overall message has percentages where the positive-negative-sarcasm ratio does not fit the usual template, the mind tends to wander and perceive genuine messages that are more negative than positive with a hint of sarcasm. Therefore, it is unfortunate that I do this, but this is why common messages get misinterpreted.
I don't care if a person who does this is a good person or has good intentions. It is supremely difficult to understand that person especially if I'm caught off-guard having to translate his words. Every time that I am in this position to interact with this person, it's like a poker game where all three can be used to intimidate and confuse me -- and I end up folding. I never liked playing this game of charades where simple events or ideas are misused at the expense to say an over-the-top negative interpretation, a rare genuinely positive interpretation, or a false-positive sarcastic statement. Why can't simple ideas or events be stated and interpreted literally at face-value without the strain to energetically move someone with emotion? I can't stand the fact that someone put all this work in to strongly move me with emotion in one way or another, but usually negative, just for me to filter all the negativity and emotion out. I just want factual statements without over-the-top hyperbole, emotion, or examples so that I have that capacity to think for myself based on these facts. Emotions reach me before I can sometimes translate the words and I don't want to be swayed in one way or another by emotion before deciphering a person's thoughts; I want to make my own conclusions. I don't want to be told what to do anymore; I don't want to be told what to think anymore. I want to think for myself without outside influence and I want to do for myself based on my own thoughts. I don't want decisions or actions pre-made and destined for me to follow. I am fully capable for being on my own where actions and thoughts are done by my own behalf.
The amygdala gets really tired from deciphering all these signals and instead of properly understanding the statements said by an individual, I can't seem to file these statements fast enough. Instead, positive statements that do not sting as much as negative statements gets disregarded with the negative statements because I have grown a high tolerance for negative statements. This high tolerance of negative-statement abuse makes it so that positive statements don't seem to register as much. If a person is naturally negative, negative statements are the litmus test in order to interpret whether or not if the next statement or the whole message is consistently negative, positive, or falsely positive with sarcasm. A falsely positive sarcastic statement makes the equation even worse because I have to understand that the person is trying to overstate with hyperbole that something is wrong instead of something is right. Upon translation, I have to take into connotation that the literal message that I received is not true and the polar opposite meaning has to be interpreted.
Positive people have the baseline for positive messages and positive thinking. Negative people have the baseline for negative messages and negative thinking. The equilibrium for an overly-negative mind where some positive thoughts occur is mildly negative, but I can't take every positive thought that comes out as literal because of impending false-positive sarcastic doom. If false-positive sarcasm is involved with negative people who once in a while say genuinely positive things, positive statements that would otherwise be interpreted as genuine would be cast aside as "pending to be translated for negative connotation" because of possible false-positive sarcasm.
As a result: openly straightforward positive statements gets translated wrongly with a negative connotation or message. Negative statements are still translated as negative statements because of the benchmark for how negative people think naturally. Falsely positive sarcastic messages that are blatantly untrue are just a reinforcement that other positive statements are also untrue and that the opposite has to be interpreted. Therefore, when a negative person says a majority of negative things with some genuinely positive messages as well as sarcastic things, his natural equilibrium is still mildly negative. However, the interpreter of his words gets mixed up and wrongly accuses him that all his statements have negative connotation no matter if it's positive or negative, sarcastic or genuine. In addition to messages that are lost in translation, all of the interpreted words become nothing to be readily relied upon because every statement becomes something to ignore and trash once the amygdala is overloaded, even the genuine positive messages.
Over time, there is an assumption made that for every large percentage of negative statements, there is a small chance for genuinely positive statements, and a sliver of false-positive sarcastic statements. This assumption is wrong but the amygdala takes these shortcuts when receiving a message from the same person over time. If an overall message has percentages where the positive-negative-sarcasm ratio does not fit the usual template, the mind tends to wander and perceive genuine messages that are more negative than positive with a hint of sarcasm. Therefore, it is unfortunate that I do this, but this is why common messages get misinterpreted.
I don't care if a person who does this is a good person or has good intentions. It is supremely difficult to understand that person especially if I'm caught off-guard having to translate his words. Every time that I am in this position to interact with this person, it's like a poker game where all three can be used to intimidate and confuse me -- and I end up folding. I never liked playing this game of charades where simple events or ideas are misused at the expense to say an over-the-top negative interpretation, a rare genuinely positive interpretation, or a false-positive sarcastic statement. Why can't simple ideas or events be stated and interpreted literally at face-value without the strain to energetically move someone with emotion? I can't stand the fact that someone put all this work in to strongly move me with emotion in one way or another, but usually negative, just for me to filter all the negativity and emotion out. I just want factual statements without over-the-top hyperbole, emotion, or examples so that I have that capacity to think for myself based on these facts. Emotions reach me before I can sometimes translate the words and I don't want to be swayed in one way or another by emotion before deciphering a person's thoughts; I want to make my own conclusions. I don't want to be told what to do anymore; I don't want to be told what to think anymore. I want to think for myself without outside influence and I want to do for myself based on my own thoughts. I don't want decisions or actions pre-made and destined for me to follow. I am fully capable for being on my own where actions and thoughts are done by my own behalf.
Friday, April 15, 2016
Tuesday, April 12, 2016
remix notes
existing material something new
tools distributor
skills
copy
transform
combine
original
copy without making fundamental changes
covers knockoffs
legal remixing
familiar
adaptions
old into new
transformed
referenced subverted
appropriated
reshape culture
creation requires influence
preceded it
everything we make is a remix of existing creations our lives and the lives of others
we stand on the shoulders of giants -- issac newton
saturated
the act of creation is surrounded by a fog of myths. myths that creativity comes via inspiration
that original creations break the mold
that they are the products of geniuses
and appear as quickly as electricity can heat a filament
creativity
applying ordinary tools of thought to existing material
copying
and that's copying. Put simply, copying is how we learn. We can’t introduce anything new until we’re fluent in the language of our domain, and we do that through emulation.
copying knowledge and understanding
grounded in fundamentals copying
transformation create something new
take an idea and create iterations
variations
time consuming tinkering breakthrough
These are all major advances, but they’re not original ideas so much as tipping points in a continuous line of invention by many different people.
But the most dramatic results can happen when ideas are combined. By connecting ideas together creative leaps can be made, producing some of history's biggest breakthroughs.
hit critical mass i
combined all these elements
combination it incorporated that set the Mac on a path towards long-term success.
research and development
connectiveness
what if never developed?
different?
further behind?
major breakthrough
Whenever there’s a major breakthrough, there’s usually others on the same path. Maybe a bit behind, maybe not behind at all.
Isaac Newton and Gottfried Leibniz both invented calculus around 1684.
The theory of evolution was proposed by Darwin, of course, but Alfred Russel Wallace had pretty much the same idea at pretty much the same time. And Alexander Graham Bell and Elisha Gray filed patents for the telephone on the same day.
We call this multiple discovery — the same innovation emerging from different places. Science and invention is riddled with it, but it can also happen in the arts.
We’re all building with the same materials. And sometimes by coincidence we get similar results, but sometimes innovations just seem inevitable.
i invented nothing new
i simply assembled the discoveries of other men behind who were centuries of work. had i worked 50 for 10 or even 5 years before, i would have failed
so it is with every new thing progress happens when all the factors that make for it are ready, and then it is inevitable
to teach that a comparatively few men are responsible for the greatest forward steps of mankind is the worst sort of nonsense -- henry ford
“I invented nothing new. I simply assembled the discoveries of other men behind whom were centuries of work. Had I worked fifty or ten or even five years before, I would have failed. So it is with every new thing. Progress happens when all the factors that make for it are ready, and then it is inevitable. To teach that a comparatively few men are responsible for the greatest forward steps of mankind is the worst sort of nonsense.”
right time at the right place
best adapted lifeforms proper
ideas behaviors skills
dominate ideas
property lots and boundaries
layered in
And the dominant ideas of our time are the memes that spread the most.
But ideas aren't so tidy. They're layered, they’re interwoven, they're tangled. And when the system conflicts with the reality... the system starts to fail.
But the growing dominance of the market economy, where the products of our intellectual labors are bought and sold, produced an unfortunate side-effect.
is price needs to cover not just the manufacturing cost, but also the cost of inventing the thing in the first place.
Now let's say a competitor starts manufacturing a copy of the invention. The competitor doesn't need to cover those development costs so his version can be cheaper.
The bottom line: original creations can’t compete with the price of copies.
Copyrights covered media; patents covered inventions. Both aimed to encourage the creation and proliferation of new ideas by providing a brief and limited period of exclusivity, a period where no one else could copy your work.
This gave creators a window in which to cover their investment and earn a profit. After that their work entered the public domain, where it could spread far and wide and be freely built upon.
a robust public domain, an affordable body of ideas, products, arts and entertainment available to all. The core belief was in the common good, what would benefit everyone.
ideas are a form of property, and this conviction would eventually yield a new term… intellectual property.
we hate losing what we've got. People tend to place a much higher value on losses than on gains. So the gains we get from copying the work of others don’t make a big impression, but when it’s our ideas being copied, we perceive this as a loss and we get territorial.
And lastly, Steve Jobs was sometimes boastful about Apple's history of copying.
But he harbored deep grudges against those who dared to copy Apple.
When we copy we justify it. When others copy we vilify it. Most of us have no problem with copying... as long as we're the ones doing it.
promote learning
encourage
better lives
incentivizing creativity
The exclusive rights these acts introduced were a compromise for a greater purpose. The intent was to better the lives of everyone by incentivizing creativity and producing a rich public domain, a shared pool of knowledge, open to all.
talented is work hard work
most promising circumstances present themselves
unconscious influence. ideas come from somewhere else
make up idea by yourself
tools distributor
skills
copy
transform
combine
original
copy without making fundamental changes
covers knockoffs
legal remixing
familiar
adaptions
old into new
transformed
referenced subverted
appropriated
reshape culture
creation requires influence
preceded it
everything we make is a remix of existing creations our lives and the lives of others
we stand on the shoulders of giants -- issac newton
saturated
the act of creation is surrounded by a fog of myths. myths that creativity comes via inspiration
that original creations break the mold
that they are the products of geniuses
and appear as quickly as electricity can heat a filament
creativity
applying ordinary tools of thought to existing material
copying
and that's copying. Put simply, copying is how we learn. We can’t introduce anything new until we’re fluent in the language of our domain, and we do that through emulation.
copying knowledge and understanding
grounded in fundamentals copying
transformation create something new
take an idea and create iterations
variations
time consuming tinkering breakthrough
These are all major advances, but they’re not original ideas so much as tipping points in a continuous line of invention by many different people.
But the most dramatic results can happen when ideas are combined. By connecting ideas together creative leaps can be made, producing some of history's biggest breakthroughs.
hit critical mass i
combined all these elements
combination it incorporated that set the Mac on a path towards long-term success.
research and development
connectiveness
what if never developed?
different?
further behind?
major breakthrough
Whenever there’s a major breakthrough, there’s usually others on the same path. Maybe a bit behind, maybe not behind at all.
Isaac Newton and Gottfried Leibniz both invented calculus around 1684.
The theory of evolution was proposed by Darwin, of course, but Alfred Russel Wallace had pretty much the same idea at pretty much the same time. And Alexander Graham Bell and Elisha Gray filed patents for the telephone on the same day.
We call this multiple discovery — the same innovation emerging from different places. Science and invention is riddled with it, but it can also happen in the arts.
We’re all building with the same materials. And sometimes by coincidence we get similar results, but sometimes innovations just seem inevitable.
i invented nothing new
i simply assembled the discoveries of other men behind who were centuries of work. had i worked 50 for 10 or even 5 years before, i would have failed
so it is with every new thing progress happens when all the factors that make for it are ready, and then it is inevitable
to teach that a comparatively few men are responsible for the greatest forward steps of mankind is the worst sort of nonsense -- henry ford
“I invented nothing new. I simply assembled the discoveries of other men behind whom were centuries of work. Had I worked fifty or ten or even five years before, I would have failed. So it is with every new thing. Progress happens when all the factors that make for it are ready, and then it is inevitable. To teach that a comparatively few men are responsible for the greatest forward steps of mankind is the worst sort of nonsense.”
right time at the right place
best adapted lifeforms proper
ideas behaviors skills
dominate ideas
property lots and boundaries
layered in
And the dominant ideas of our time are the memes that spread the most.
But ideas aren't so tidy. They're layered, they’re interwoven, they're tangled. And when the system conflicts with the reality... the system starts to fail.
But the growing dominance of the market economy, where the products of our intellectual labors are bought and sold, produced an unfortunate side-effect.
is price needs to cover not just the manufacturing cost, but also the cost of inventing the thing in the first place.
Now let's say a competitor starts manufacturing a copy of the invention. The competitor doesn't need to cover those development costs so his version can be cheaper.
The bottom line: original creations can’t compete with the price of copies.
Copyrights covered media; patents covered inventions. Both aimed to encourage the creation and proliferation of new ideas by providing a brief and limited period of exclusivity, a period where no one else could copy your work.
This gave creators a window in which to cover their investment and earn a profit. After that their work entered the public domain, where it could spread far and wide and be freely built upon.
a robust public domain, an affordable body of ideas, products, arts and entertainment available to all. The core belief was in the common good, what would benefit everyone.
ideas are a form of property, and this conviction would eventually yield a new term… intellectual property.
we hate losing what we've got. People tend to place a much higher value on losses than on gains. So the gains we get from copying the work of others don’t make a big impression, but when it’s our ideas being copied, we perceive this as a loss and we get territorial.
And lastly, Steve Jobs was sometimes boastful about Apple's history of copying.
But he harbored deep grudges against those who dared to copy Apple.
When we copy we justify it. When others copy we vilify it. Most of us have no problem with copying... as long as we're the ones doing it.
promote learning
encourage
better lives
incentivizing creativity
The exclusive rights these acts introduced were a compromise for a greater purpose. The intent was to better the lives of everyone by incentivizing creativity and producing a rich public domain, a shared pool of knowledge, open to all.
talented is work hard work
most promising circumstances present themselves
unconscious influence. ideas come from somewhere else
make up idea by yourself
Sunday, April 10, 2016
how to light the fire underneath me
everythings a remix part 3
diddy talk
in this life, you gotta take what's yours
Movie Subplots and Takeaways
the learning
a beautiful mind
in order to have a completely original idea, do not go to class. the solution is in experiences in real life and how social circles evolve to think for themselves in competition as well as a collective whole. do not fall victim to memorizing how others portray the physical world because it's sometimes outdated and wrong. use your own keen eye to examine the world as you see it and then write about that. for other people to deem your work as successful takes too long and you should not wait but keep on striving for greatness
anger management
dictate what your life should be and stop getting tread on by other people who are less qualified than you because you didn't pipe up and they did. be more assertive in life and stop bemoaning stuff about the past that you should or should not have done to result in today's consequences. change for today
back to the future/next/butterfly effect
pure fiction. do not believe that there will be such thing as a time machine to go back and change your past so that you can change your future in a quick fix. there is no such thing as a quick fix and you just have to deal with the consequences that you have today as you see them. do not let others cloud your judgement
basic instinct
just decisions gone wrong. do not let short term benefits dictate long term failures. do not get caught up in the moment. take time off to think and stop being manipulated. figure out all the clues on-hand and do not let lies that sound better than the truth to fool you. gut instincts tell you the truth only if you let them but please pause before continuing forward. register and process all the cues. there are things in life that is there to distract and manipulate you. you must have the time of day to figure out what each individual sign means and how signals are portrayed in order to make out the full picture. do not be blind sighted and please ask all the questions possible without the act of inferencing that something is true. pool and poll all the suspects, friend and enemy, to get the full picture
big daddy/knocked up
sometimes, it takes a kid to prioritize life's goals and decisions. sometimes, it takes a kid for the adult in us to grow up. the struggle is real and even though stammers in speech during trying times and bad actions might reflect poorly on an individual, time is required for someone to mature where some mature slower than others. give people another chance and let their real actions dictate what intentions are real and what actions are fleeting facades
bruce almighty
stop asking someone else for a handout if you have the motivation, goals, aspirations, and correct actions within you to perform your own miracles. you don't need an outside force if progress and actions are dictated by your own ability. do what is right and keep on moving forward in the right direction
capitalism a love story/enron the smartest guys in the room/the one percent
capitalism isn't stated in the united states government. survival of the fittest and competitive drive sometimes deplete a society and the economy because of selfish individual drives to get rich instead of ways to benefit the common good. you need to have the moral accountability among the actions of men to perform at its finest hour. employer-owned companies are the best companies to work for because the workers have a say in how the company is run. the great divide between rich and poor is becoming larger. the rich have been getting richer by the grandfather clause of 22-cent sugar where everywhere else is 7 cents as well as special interest scams to deregulate government policies. 250 billion in taxpayer's money are used to bail out the wrongdoings of enron in 2001 and the banks in 2008. the equalizer is to vote corrupt officials out of office and to demand new litigation against the common side effect of ruthless embezzlement in a capitalistic dog-eat-dog society
eurotrip
sometimes, you don't need all the answers in life to perform tasks and go with the flow. be serendipitous and have interactions in life that will make your experiences richer. being with people outside your natural circle will save you in the long run because there is no conflict of interest. outsiders wont drive you down for the sake of their own advantage in a dog-eat-dog environment. find ways to develop outside interests and hobbies
ferris buellers day off
take time to look around and enjoy the little things in life. face consequences for better or for worse as they come and despite having conflicts and repercussions, you will get through it. you sometimes have luck on your side if you are open minded. say yes to yourself so that other people can say yes. do not say no to yourself before other people have a chance to reply yes or no
goodwill hunting
this is the thesis statement of a lifetime. matt damon wrote the script for his Harvard class, where the main character is a reflection of his life growing up in the Boston area with both MIT and Harvard in his backyard. although he did not graduate Harvard but instead pursued an acting career, the lessons learned and contemplated in order to portray parts of his life on the big screen carried over with him towards his future success.
when you're watching this movie when you're younger, you focused on Will more than the other actors. the whole picture of the struggles and healing process that took place among 3 people created the bigger premise. the math professor were roommates with the psychology professor back when they were undergrad at Harvard. The math professor who teaches at MIT is the culmination of how he was pushed and how he pushed himself to excel to become a field medal winner. The psychology professor (Robin Williams) was the aftermath of self-made decisions gone awry with a wife claimed by cancer and a community college teaching position. Both professors back in their college heyday were excellent in their own right, with the math professor claiming that the psychology professor was talent wasted with the current position that he is in. The two professors squabbled about this for years and the Matt Damon character was introduced to change the paths of all 3 individuals.
Will, the self-taught orphan that surpassed all education taught in Harvard undergrad, solved the math professor's proof and suddenly, the math professor realized that the second coming of Ramanujan was in the midst. All during the math professor's life, he has been lauded with extrinsic rewards of being an accomplished mathematician. however, the accolades did not come naturally and he had to work to achieve those successes, which were great refuge to seek validation in life. With Will being able to solve math proofs so naturally and easily, the math professor soon lost his validation because someone else younger has surpassed him to a point where he could never achieve. The math professor never lost hope but instead tried to create Will in his image where he pushes Will to become a successful individual in the field of mathematics and to find a stable job.
The psychology professor realized that Will and him had similar abusive childhoods and that Will was in a lot of hurt where his emotions and defensive mechanisms got the best of his behavior. Will was unstable to hold a position in a job and that he had no interest to solve something as rudimentary as a math proof that the math professor cannot solve. The struggles of external shame was shared by both the psychology professor and Will because they are both as smart as can be but bad luck and fate intervened when they were growing up. Had circumstances been different and had both of them grew up in better households with loving parents, they would not have suffered through so much pain to get to where they are today. As a metaphor, both of them intrinsically are contempt and ready to take on the world with their talents because they share the same intellectual power but also share the setbacks of their upbringing. The psychology professor can connect to Will on a personal level that the math professor never could where compassion and caring would bring Will out of his mental asylum in order to bring his life new hope.
Will, because of his abusive step father, had a defensive mechanism that would push people away before he got deeply acquainted with them because he was abandoned as a child. His foundation from where he stood was crumbled and he would rather hang out with the street fellows because their brotherhood trust protected his back. In order to emulate how the street Bostonian thought and acted, Will lowered his standards and wanted to work as a construction worker and hitch rides. Will would reveal his intellectualism once in a while for the sake of impressing girls for the crew. He plans to live out his life as an average Joe with the street fellows he once befriended and abandon his intellect just to be accepted as one of them. However, the street fellow pushes Will away and states that if he had Will's intellect, he will get off the streets, choose the higher job, and make a better life for himself.
Meanwhile, the psychology professor cannot outwit Will on an intellectual level because Will read all the books there is to know about everything in the Psych office. Will also argued that half the books the Psych professor had at the office was a waste of time and depicted tame thinking. The psych professor argued back that there is more to life than just reading books and life is worth exploring at one's expense for the sheer pleasure of experience and enjoyment. Life is not made for those who can see danger 20 steps down the line and chooses not to take the road based on hypothetical thought. Regardless of any mistakes that the Psych professor made with his life, he is still content intrinsically because he made his decisions at his own cost and he has no regrets of being coerced into something that he did not want to do like did the math professor.
Both professors are trying to pull Will to their paths because of Will's genius and it truly depends on Will's actions and decisions of what he wants to do next that will dictate his life. Will agreed with the math professor that going for the high-end job is worth his while but chooses last minute to pursue the girl that he was chasing at Harvard who recently moved to Stanford. Taking from both professors, it was important to have a stable job like the math professor but it was ultimately decided that the psychology professor was right for Will making his own decisions that fulfilled his heart. Having the right partner in life is much more rare and worthwhile the effort to pursue than even a high-end job that would be relatively commonplace in comparison. Will slowly lowered his defense mechanism by understanding that the past was not his fault and to have love in his heart. His choice to pursue the girl, where affection was much more important than steady income, was the rational expression to take a chance at your own expense in accord with the psych professor.
The three person struggle indicated that fulfillment based on self decision-making and intrinsic validation of intellect was much more important than a paycheck and extrinsic validation of accolades from other people. The field medal was an extrinsic reward, which meant nothing much to the math professor because he knows that Will can do much more than he ever did. Both the psych professor and Will had a healing process because intellectuals in the face of uncertainty would freeze and not move forward. Having the courage to move on from your past and set forth into the great unknown was the ultimate thesis of the movie because at least you know that intrinsically, you made all the self-fulfilling decisions to act for this life of how you intended.
In the greater scheme of things, Matt Damon made the movie and never turned back. He was in classic films where he had a supporting role as well as lead characters in the bourne trilogy. His career did not atrophy like other actors and still makes decisions on his own behalf even today. This lesson was breathtaking and I did a lot of growing up learning that one needs to not be completely certain in order to make decisions that your heart desires.
inception
over glorified heist movie, use imagination whenever possible to save yourself. think outside the box to solve problems and come up with solutions
rain man
treat people the same as others will treat you. respect other people's values, interests, beliefs, and authorities. do what is right to fight for your rights. as long as you believe in yourself and see things clearly, everything else will fall into place
rounders/40 year old virgin
in life, you have to take chances for better or for worse. you have to face consequences as face value with no cloudy vision. the better you understand the current situation without lying to yourself, the better off you will be able to solve life's problems. never lie to yourself or to others about the current predicament because people are there to help you. by being totally honest with yourself and other people, you will find a way out better and faster than if you lied to yourself. lying makes the situation exacerbated over time by telling the same lies and eventually convincing yourself and others about your falsified current state of affairs. do not lie to yourself or to others, approach conflict if needed, remain true to yourself. if you lie, you either convince others that you are in a better off situation than you actually are, where they can't help you either because they don't know the truth for them to help you solve your situation. if you are a good liar, you end up convincing yourself that you are actually living in your fictional fantasy land and you will rather live out your life in the lie that you created instead of monitoring the actual state of affairs and digging yourself out of the rut. use more of your brain to examine the truth rather than playing yourself in your own facades
the firm
you dictate your life, your career path, and how you want to get paid. if you are caught in a company where you are paid extra to break your morals, you have to find a way out of that company without compromising your own beliefs or future career path. nobody in the company will think for your behalf besides you and it becomes very much a chess game between the novice and the well established. If you can think on your feet to meander out of the situation that you unbeknowningly got yourself in, you will be able to stand on your own two feet without being condemned or go into hiding. figure out what is right for you and don't have others make your choices in your behalf. you control your life and decisions without having someone else or a corporation pigeonholing you with what they judge you as.
the girl next door/the matrix
life is full of fear and new experiences. there are expectations that others place on you to achieve towards higher goals and it seems that the more successful you are, the steeper the climb, and the more drawbacks you will face if you plunge. people are stereotyped and classified to be in certain positions for their roles in life and the tasks in which you are assigned to perform are daunting. the right approach is to have the right mental attitude about things. Do not freeze or overthink and open up to the possibilities of a new approach that changes your perception about life. have a friend or a colleague to break you out of societal roles and have you adapt into a completely new understanding of life. the same decisions and choices over time influence people to be incarcerated by their past where people are stagnant and do not grow in experience or in knowledge. The person who you are trusting must completely change your plane of thought, reasoning, and decision making so that you can improve for the better. there will be growing pains, but you will plow through all setbacks just to pick yourself back up from where you have fallen. As long as you trust that you will have new expectations, goals, achievements, and experiences unveiled to you along your journey, your life is like driving in fog with 10 feet of clearance. The decisions that you chose is to the best of your ability and you will continue venturing forward into this brave new world. Do not let up and good things will arrive before you in unexpected ways as long as your mind is loose with the idea that solutions occur outside the box. Everyone else finds solutions inside the box and those roads are trodden, pilfered, and pillaged a thousand times over. It's time to venture off into the mental wilderness and find the solutions that others have not considered.
the pursuit of happyness
the beautiful struggle to where you expose yourself to how successful people live and operate and you try to salvage and scrounge your way to mimic their lives and careers. expose yourself to the other half as much as possible: seeing is believing is achieving. your exposure to other people's success make your goals that much more vivid. define all the attributes of how success is achievable in your eyes. make sure that the work and sacrifices are worthwhile for your end goal and never let up or let go of your dreams.
the thomas crown affair
you have your career to validate your education but there is something much more valuable than money. rich experiences and someone to share those experiences with is more valuable than money and worldly possessions. please seek a circle of friends who think for your interest as well as in the interest and benefit of the common good. having a wife who believes in you while supporting your ideals and interests will make money and possessions in life seem trivial
the truman show
don't be incarcerated by your past memories, immediate surroundings, decision making patterns, or immediate friends. although aggravatingly difficult, find a way to see through the facade and choose a better life for yourself by your own personal intentions. do not act a certain way because someone is watching -- someone is always watching. do what is right for yourself based on your best judgement regardless of whoever is there to judge or persuade you to change your mind. you are not born and bred just to become a statistical figure or a footnote in history. find a way to be your original true self and not be just one of the sheep following the masses. distinguish yourself by choosing the road less traveled and always remember that you are not living your life, dreams, goals, and ambitions for the sake of someone else. you are living your life and making your decisions on behalf of yourself. you have the ability to change everything if needed.
yes man/secret life of walter mitty
open yourself to the possibility of everything being achievable. do not let up on how small your world is by making artificial barrier of entry for yourself. the barriers are in your mind and do not exist in the real world. find a way to snap out of the sheepish depravity that you define as your life and actually venture off into the world just to live a little. a life left unexamined is not worth living because you have not lived to experience anything
rat race/road trip
rich people don't know what to do with their money. find a cause and donate to it in order for lessen social divide between the less fortunate and the well off. society is driven by people who give and the incentive for giving is that you feel much better when giving than taking -- you also feel prideful with no shame or remorse.
off topic: people who are outside the realm of certain situations have a clear view of what the obvious choice is. however, when you are inside the situation where it is your life, things get muddled and becomes complex with how many details you know. there is paralysis by over-analysis and it is wise to ask your trusted friends in order to see your way of the forest into the correct decision. always ask around for a second opinion and do not make wasteful decisions out of haste or dibble dabble on the possibility until the window of opportunity eventually closes and expires. Had breckin meyer married amy smart, those two would have been a powerful young couple in hollywood because their actions complimented each other in every way on-screen. instead, breckin married early without thinking and both actors' careers suffered significantly after. everything thereafter had a few glimmers of hope but was whisked away too quickly to gain back the national spotlight.
eyes wide shut
tell the truth. explore if needed. let the wife make the decisions when you're out of ideas. Off Topic: I feel like tom cruise never grew up as an actor because he likes to be portrayed in films that he is comfortable and familiar playing a role in. Tom Cruise got rewards and recognition because he was relatively first in his field. Had Leonardo DiCaprio and Tom Cruise switched acting roles in all their movies, Tom Cruise would have been second place or snubbed his whole career like Leo. Only when Leo expanded his horizons and ventured out into an acting role that he was unfamiliar did Leo finally win the Oscar.
a beautiful mind
in order to have a completely original idea, do not go to class. the solution is in experiences in real life and how social circles evolve to think for themselves in competition as well as a collective whole. do not fall victim to memorizing how others portray the physical world because it's sometimes outdated and wrong. use your own keen eye to examine the world as you see it and then write about that. for other people to deem your work as successful takes too long and you should not wait but keep on striving for greatness
anger management
dictate what your life should be and stop getting tread on by other people who are less qualified than you because you didn't pipe up and they did. be more assertive in life and stop bemoaning stuff about the past that you should or should not have done to result in today's consequences. change for today
back to the future/next/butterfly effect
pure fiction. do not believe that there will be such thing as a time machine to go back and change your past so that you can change your future in a quick fix. there is no such thing as a quick fix and you just have to deal with the consequences that you have today as you see them. do not let others cloud your judgement
basic instinct
just decisions gone wrong. do not let short term benefits dictate long term failures. do not get caught up in the moment. take time off to think and stop being manipulated. figure out all the clues on-hand and do not let lies that sound better than the truth to fool you. gut instincts tell you the truth only if you let them but please pause before continuing forward. register and process all the cues. there are things in life that is there to distract and manipulate you. you must have the time of day to figure out what each individual sign means and how signals are portrayed in order to make out the full picture. do not be blind sighted and please ask all the questions possible without the act of inferencing that something is true. pool and poll all the suspects, friend and enemy, to get the full picture
big daddy/knocked up
sometimes, it takes a kid to prioritize life's goals and decisions. sometimes, it takes a kid for the adult in us to grow up. the struggle is real and even though stammers in speech during trying times and bad actions might reflect poorly on an individual, time is required for someone to mature where some mature slower than others. give people another chance and let their real actions dictate what intentions are real and what actions are fleeting facades
bruce almighty
stop asking someone else for a handout if you have the motivation, goals, aspirations, and correct actions within you to perform your own miracles. you don't need an outside force if progress and actions are dictated by your own ability. do what is right and keep on moving forward in the right direction
capitalism a love story/enron the smartest guys in the room/the one percent
capitalism isn't stated in the united states government. survival of the fittest and competitive drive sometimes deplete a society and the economy because of selfish individual drives to get rich instead of ways to benefit the common good. you need to have the moral accountability among the actions of men to perform at its finest hour. employer-owned companies are the best companies to work for because the workers have a say in how the company is run. the great divide between rich and poor is becoming larger. the rich have been getting richer by the grandfather clause of 22-cent sugar where everywhere else is 7 cents as well as special interest scams to deregulate government policies. 250 billion in taxpayer's money are used to bail out the wrongdoings of enron in 2001 and the banks in 2008. the equalizer is to vote corrupt officials out of office and to demand new litigation against the common side effect of ruthless embezzlement in a capitalistic dog-eat-dog society
eurotrip
sometimes, you don't need all the answers in life to perform tasks and go with the flow. be serendipitous and have interactions in life that will make your experiences richer. being with people outside your natural circle will save you in the long run because there is no conflict of interest. outsiders wont drive you down for the sake of their own advantage in a dog-eat-dog environment. find ways to develop outside interests and hobbies
ferris buellers day off
take time to look around and enjoy the little things in life. face consequences for better or for worse as they come and despite having conflicts and repercussions, you will get through it. you sometimes have luck on your side if you are open minded. say yes to yourself so that other people can say yes. do not say no to yourself before other people have a chance to reply yes or no
goodwill hunting
this is the thesis statement of a lifetime. matt damon wrote the script for his Harvard class, where the main character is a reflection of his life growing up in the Boston area with both MIT and Harvard in his backyard. although he did not graduate Harvard but instead pursued an acting career, the lessons learned and contemplated in order to portray parts of his life on the big screen carried over with him towards his future success.
when you're watching this movie when you're younger, you focused on Will more than the other actors. the whole picture of the struggles and healing process that took place among 3 people created the bigger premise. the math professor were roommates with the psychology professor back when they were undergrad at Harvard. The math professor who teaches at MIT is the culmination of how he was pushed and how he pushed himself to excel to become a field medal winner. The psychology professor (Robin Williams) was the aftermath of self-made decisions gone awry with a wife claimed by cancer and a community college teaching position. Both professors back in their college heyday were excellent in their own right, with the math professor claiming that the psychology professor was talent wasted with the current position that he is in. The two professors squabbled about this for years and the Matt Damon character was introduced to change the paths of all 3 individuals.
Will, the self-taught orphan that surpassed all education taught in Harvard undergrad, solved the math professor's proof and suddenly, the math professor realized that the second coming of Ramanujan was in the midst. All during the math professor's life, he has been lauded with extrinsic rewards of being an accomplished mathematician. however, the accolades did not come naturally and he had to work to achieve those successes, which were great refuge to seek validation in life. With Will being able to solve math proofs so naturally and easily, the math professor soon lost his validation because someone else younger has surpassed him to a point where he could never achieve. The math professor never lost hope but instead tried to create Will in his image where he pushes Will to become a successful individual in the field of mathematics and to find a stable job.
The psychology professor realized that Will and him had similar abusive childhoods and that Will was in a lot of hurt where his emotions and defensive mechanisms got the best of his behavior. Will was unstable to hold a position in a job and that he had no interest to solve something as rudimentary as a math proof that the math professor cannot solve. The struggles of external shame was shared by both the psychology professor and Will because they are both as smart as can be but bad luck and fate intervened when they were growing up. Had circumstances been different and had both of them grew up in better households with loving parents, they would not have suffered through so much pain to get to where they are today. As a metaphor, both of them intrinsically are contempt and ready to take on the world with their talents because they share the same intellectual power but also share the setbacks of their upbringing. The psychology professor can connect to Will on a personal level that the math professor never could where compassion and caring would bring Will out of his mental asylum in order to bring his life new hope.
Will, because of his abusive step father, had a defensive mechanism that would push people away before he got deeply acquainted with them because he was abandoned as a child. His foundation from where he stood was crumbled and he would rather hang out with the street fellows because their brotherhood trust protected his back. In order to emulate how the street Bostonian thought and acted, Will lowered his standards and wanted to work as a construction worker and hitch rides. Will would reveal his intellectualism once in a while for the sake of impressing girls for the crew. He plans to live out his life as an average Joe with the street fellows he once befriended and abandon his intellect just to be accepted as one of them. However, the street fellow pushes Will away and states that if he had Will's intellect, he will get off the streets, choose the higher job, and make a better life for himself.
Meanwhile, the psychology professor cannot outwit Will on an intellectual level because Will read all the books there is to know about everything in the Psych office. Will also argued that half the books the Psych professor had at the office was a waste of time and depicted tame thinking. The psych professor argued back that there is more to life than just reading books and life is worth exploring at one's expense for the sheer pleasure of experience and enjoyment. Life is not made for those who can see danger 20 steps down the line and chooses not to take the road based on hypothetical thought. Regardless of any mistakes that the Psych professor made with his life, he is still content intrinsically because he made his decisions at his own cost and he has no regrets of being coerced into something that he did not want to do like did the math professor.
Both professors are trying to pull Will to their paths because of Will's genius and it truly depends on Will's actions and decisions of what he wants to do next that will dictate his life. Will agreed with the math professor that going for the high-end job is worth his while but chooses last minute to pursue the girl that he was chasing at Harvard who recently moved to Stanford. Taking from both professors, it was important to have a stable job like the math professor but it was ultimately decided that the psychology professor was right for Will making his own decisions that fulfilled his heart. Having the right partner in life is much more rare and worthwhile the effort to pursue than even a high-end job that would be relatively commonplace in comparison. Will slowly lowered his defense mechanism by understanding that the past was not his fault and to have love in his heart. His choice to pursue the girl, where affection was much more important than steady income, was the rational expression to take a chance at your own expense in accord with the psych professor.
The three person struggle indicated that fulfillment based on self decision-making and intrinsic validation of intellect was much more important than a paycheck and extrinsic validation of accolades from other people. The field medal was an extrinsic reward, which meant nothing much to the math professor because he knows that Will can do much more than he ever did. Both the psych professor and Will had a healing process because intellectuals in the face of uncertainty would freeze and not move forward. Having the courage to move on from your past and set forth into the great unknown was the ultimate thesis of the movie because at least you know that intrinsically, you made all the self-fulfilling decisions to act for this life of how you intended.
In the greater scheme of things, Matt Damon made the movie and never turned back. He was in classic films where he had a supporting role as well as lead characters in the bourne trilogy. His career did not atrophy like other actors and still makes decisions on his own behalf even today. This lesson was breathtaking and I did a lot of growing up learning that one needs to not be completely certain in order to make decisions that your heart desires.
inception
over glorified heist movie, use imagination whenever possible to save yourself. think outside the box to solve problems and come up with solutions
rain man
treat people the same as others will treat you. respect other people's values, interests, beliefs, and authorities. do what is right to fight for your rights. as long as you believe in yourself and see things clearly, everything else will fall into place
rounders/40 year old virgin
in life, you have to take chances for better or for worse. you have to face consequences as face value with no cloudy vision. the better you understand the current situation without lying to yourself, the better off you will be able to solve life's problems. never lie to yourself or to others about the current predicament because people are there to help you. by being totally honest with yourself and other people, you will find a way out better and faster than if you lied to yourself. lying makes the situation exacerbated over time by telling the same lies and eventually convincing yourself and others about your falsified current state of affairs. do not lie to yourself or to others, approach conflict if needed, remain true to yourself. if you lie, you either convince others that you are in a better off situation than you actually are, where they can't help you either because they don't know the truth for them to help you solve your situation. if you are a good liar, you end up convincing yourself that you are actually living in your fictional fantasy land and you will rather live out your life in the lie that you created instead of monitoring the actual state of affairs and digging yourself out of the rut. use more of your brain to examine the truth rather than playing yourself in your own facades
the firm
you dictate your life, your career path, and how you want to get paid. if you are caught in a company where you are paid extra to break your morals, you have to find a way out of that company without compromising your own beliefs or future career path. nobody in the company will think for your behalf besides you and it becomes very much a chess game between the novice and the well established. If you can think on your feet to meander out of the situation that you unbeknowningly got yourself in, you will be able to stand on your own two feet without being condemned or go into hiding. figure out what is right for you and don't have others make your choices in your behalf. you control your life and decisions without having someone else or a corporation pigeonholing you with what they judge you as.
the girl next door/the matrix
life is full of fear and new experiences. there are expectations that others place on you to achieve towards higher goals and it seems that the more successful you are, the steeper the climb, and the more drawbacks you will face if you plunge. people are stereotyped and classified to be in certain positions for their roles in life and the tasks in which you are assigned to perform are daunting. the right approach is to have the right mental attitude about things. Do not freeze or overthink and open up to the possibilities of a new approach that changes your perception about life. have a friend or a colleague to break you out of societal roles and have you adapt into a completely new understanding of life. the same decisions and choices over time influence people to be incarcerated by their past where people are stagnant and do not grow in experience or in knowledge. The person who you are trusting must completely change your plane of thought, reasoning, and decision making so that you can improve for the better. there will be growing pains, but you will plow through all setbacks just to pick yourself back up from where you have fallen. As long as you trust that you will have new expectations, goals, achievements, and experiences unveiled to you along your journey, your life is like driving in fog with 10 feet of clearance. The decisions that you chose is to the best of your ability and you will continue venturing forward into this brave new world. Do not let up and good things will arrive before you in unexpected ways as long as your mind is loose with the idea that solutions occur outside the box. Everyone else finds solutions inside the box and those roads are trodden, pilfered, and pillaged a thousand times over. It's time to venture off into the mental wilderness and find the solutions that others have not considered.
the pursuit of happyness
the beautiful struggle to where you expose yourself to how successful people live and operate and you try to salvage and scrounge your way to mimic their lives and careers. expose yourself to the other half as much as possible: seeing is believing is achieving. your exposure to other people's success make your goals that much more vivid. define all the attributes of how success is achievable in your eyes. make sure that the work and sacrifices are worthwhile for your end goal and never let up or let go of your dreams.
the thomas crown affair
you have your career to validate your education but there is something much more valuable than money. rich experiences and someone to share those experiences with is more valuable than money and worldly possessions. please seek a circle of friends who think for your interest as well as in the interest and benefit of the common good. having a wife who believes in you while supporting your ideals and interests will make money and possessions in life seem trivial
the truman show
don't be incarcerated by your past memories, immediate surroundings, decision making patterns, or immediate friends. although aggravatingly difficult, find a way to see through the facade and choose a better life for yourself by your own personal intentions. do not act a certain way because someone is watching -- someone is always watching. do what is right for yourself based on your best judgement regardless of whoever is there to judge or persuade you to change your mind. you are not born and bred just to become a statistical figure or a footnote in history. find a way to be your original true self and not be just one of the sheep following the masses. distinguish yourself by choosing the road less traveled and always remember that you are not living your life, dreams, goals, and ambitions for the sake of someone else. you are living your life and making your decisions on behalf of yourself. you have the ability to change everything if needed.
yes man/secret life of walter mitty
open yourself to the possibility of everything being achievable. do not let up on how small your world is by making artificial barrier of entry for yourself. the barriers are in your mind and do not exist in the real world. find a way to snap out of the sheepish depravity that you define as your life and actually venture off into the world just to live a little. a life left unexamined is not worth living because you have not lived to experience anything
rat race/road trip
rich people don't know what to do with their money. find a cause and donate to it in order for lessen social divide between the less fortunate and the well off. society is driven by people who give and the incentive for giving is that you feel much better when giving than taking -- you also feel prideful with no shame or remorse.
off topic: people who are outside the realm of certain situations have a clear view of what the obvious choice is. however, when you are inside the situation where it is your life, things get muddled and becomes complex with how many details you know. there is paralysis by over-analysis and it is wise to ask your trusted friends in order to see your way of the forest into the correct decision. always ask around for a second opinion and do not make wasteful decisions out of haste or dibble dabble on the possibility until the window of opportunity eventually closes and expires. Had breckin meyer married amy smart, those two would have been a powerful young couple in hollywood because their actions complimented each other in every way on-screen. instead, breckin married early without thinking and both actors' careers suffered significantly after. everything thereafter had a few glimmers of hope but was whisked away too quickly to gain back the national spotlight.
eyes wide shut
tell the truth. explore if needed. let the wife make the decisions when you're out of ideas. Off Topic: I feel like tom cruise never grew up as an actor because he likes to be portrayed in films that he is comfortable and familiar playing a role in. Tom Cruise got rewards and recognition because he was relatively first in his field. Had Leonardo DiCaprio and Tom Cruise switched acting roles in all their movies, Tom Cruise would have been second place or snubbed his whole career like Leo. Only when Leo expanded his horizons and ventured out into an acting role that he was unfamiliar did Leo finally win the Oscar.
Thursday, April 7, 2016
Saturday, March 19, 2016
Build a website -- Jeff Usner
website
build a list
first dollar
niche
goal
look at other people
enjoy, 3-5 markets
bookstore
spending money in front of audience
find people already successful
bing
find key words, competitors that we would want to do
how are they making money off of keywords
greenlight system
90% learning curve
find someone that does, find domain
compete.com
3 to 4 months of activity in volume
high, consistent traffic
pg 57, 79
keyword research to marketplace
keyword tool on google
google autocomplete, paste on keyword search
how many searches
5000+ searches
good markets
website
buy a domain name
high volume keywords to domain
.com
SEO, ranking on google w/o paying
5 years on domain
register 99 cent domain
instantdomainsearch.com
buy domain name
don't buy private domain
short as possible less than 20
easy to spell
host gator.com
post domain on internet
$4
don't add addons
$7
yahoo, name server, connects domain to hosting
set up website
summary
get things into action
idea is worth nothing unless action
money
action speed, make a mess
how to make money with website
look at competitor and how they make money
name email address
build a list
promote other people's products
get commission
affiliate marketing.
create a product yourself
adsense, build a blog
sell domain on flippa after building it
tie a tie, sell ties
landing page, build a list
adsense, set up with google
build website, stumbling block
optimize press, fiverr
make landing page, squeeze pages
create offer
build a list, offer services at backend
keep it simple
solve a problem
download optimize press
save file, give to fiverr on domain
wordpress install
blog/website, optimize press into action
install themes backlink sites
web hosting info, domain
get some articles written
verified my hosting
install wordpress, install optimize press
fiverr article writing
content on blog
title article,
get keywords to put into title
email marketing account
set up account get response, get web form
use code to get first landing page
create webform
landing page, squeeze page
name and email traffic
simple
elance
fiverr. header
installed
preheadline,
get clicky
tracking code copy paste
optimize press
get clicky see traffic, troubleshoot
traffic
look at others
copy paste
key words, with ads that catch eye
ad title 25,71
ads adcenter
advertise accounts
buy sign up
20 cent
speed
blog
list
click bank.com
offerbuzz
odigger
affbuzz/offerbuzz
competitor
walmart, affiliate programs
earn commissions
cpa, get traffic
offervault
dont get street rate
bing budget
get traffic from keywords
adsense
set up ad sense on page
affiliate search with amazon, affiliate id
get response
first message add affiliate links
write a follow up....same way for each person
lower bids for ads
visual website optimizer
max bounty
exit redirect options
little change is big profit
lower cost, increase click through link
subject on emails, second page offer
opened, clicked and complaints
2 links above the fold
1 link in ps statement
bump auto responder list
popup domination
clonemywebsite.com
optimizepress.com
funnels, landing pages
elance
snagit
jing.com
build a list
first dollar
niche
goal
look at other people
enjoy, 3-5 markets
bookstore
spending money in front of audience
find people already successful
bing
find key words, competitors that we would want to do
how are they making money off of keywords
greenlight system
90% learning curve
find someone that does, find domain
compete.com
3 to 4 months of activity in volume
high, consistent traffic
pg 57, 79
keyword research to marketplace
keyword tool on google
google autocomplete, paste on keyword search
how many searches
5000+ searches
good markets
website
buy a domain name
high volume keywords to domain
.com
SEO, ranking on google w/o paying
5 years on domain
register 99 cent domain
instantdomainsearch.com
buy domain name
don't buy private domain
short as possible less than 20
easy to spell
host gator.com
post domain on internet
$4
don't add addons
$7
yahoo, name server, connects domain to hosting
set up website
summary
get things into action
idea is worth nothing unless action
money
action speed, make a mess
how to make money with website
look at competitor and how they make money
name email address
build a list
promote other people's products
get commission
affiliate marketing.
create a product yourself
adsense, build a blog
sell domain on flippa after building it
tie a tie, sell ties
landing page, build a list
adsense, set up with google
build website, stumbling block
optimize press, fiverr
make landing page, squeeze pages
create offer
build a list, offer services at backend
keep it simple
solve a problem
download optimize press
save file, give to fiverr on domain
wordpress install
blog/website, optimize press into action
install themes backlink sites
web hosting info, domain
get some articles written
verified my hosting
install wordpress, install optimize press
fiverr article writing
content on blog
title article,
get keywords to put into title
email marketing account
set up account get response, get web form
use code to get first landing page
create webform
landing page, squeeze page
name and email traffic
simple
elance
fiverr. header
installed
preheadline,
get clicky
tracking code copy paste
optimize press
get clicky see traffic, troubleshoot
traffic
look at others
copy paste
key words, with ads that catch eye
ad title 25,71
ads adcenter
advertise accounts
buy sign up
20 cent
speed
blog
list
click bank.com
offerbuzz
odigger
affbuzz/offerbuzz
competitor
walmart, affiliate programs
earn commissions
cpa, get traffic
offervault
dont get street rate
bing budget
get traffic from keywords
adsense
set up ad sense on page
affiliate search with amazon, affiliate id
get response
first message add affiliate links
write a follow up....same way for each person
lower bids for ads
visual website optimizer
max bounty
exit redirect options
little change is big profit
lower cost, increase click through link
subject on emails, second page offer
opened, clicked and complaints
2 links above the fold
1 link in ps statement
bump auto responder list
popup domination
clonemywebsite.com
optimizepress.com
funnels, landing pages
elance
snagit
jing.com
The Willpower Instinct - Kelly McGonigal
self control works matters get more
lack of willpower goals
impulse than choices
stress procrastination
why self sabotage
how did you fail?
why lose self control: over estimate
fail to predict when they give in
avoid traps
common humanity of willpower
universal experiences
i will,i wont, i want challenges
self control better than intelligence
w/o desire, depressed
fair, protect
self aware
don't default to easiness
aware to control stimulation
distractions kill self control
brain malleable
obstacles to willpower by testing it to hard stuff to resist
meditate
don't move
move towards thoughts
smaller doses on exercise than to just not do it
noticing off goal, getting back to goal,. self actualization
notice when you're wandering and lost in goals
reward sense
pause and plan
well fueled brain to combat temptations
heart rate variability
heart rate variability
high resist, low tempt
slow breath control
exercise increased self control
strength and self control
antidepressant
white matter, faster connections
grey matter
willpower generator
gave back far what you spend
restores energy
willpower sleep
no i wont challenge
if cant resist, what are you saying yes to?
too much willpower bad
over control is toxic
relax, mental physical rest
poor self control and focus
stress enemy of self control
use self control depletes self control like a battery
corporate culture didn't share values
boosting blood sugar increase willpower
low energy makes them worse
stingy with energy
draining same source of strength
self imposed deadlines, piece wise
do anything small self controls
choose difficult and not easy
yea vs yes, non dominant hand, don't swear
practice building a habit
resist the temptation by visible
you are doing this
overprotective monitoring brain
beliefs, vs true self control
better role in real life increases self control
how you benefit if succeed
who else succeed by you actions, help them
easier over time, difficult now
stronger want that holds more weight
don't just immediate gains, need self discipline
food, workout
license to sin
proven rejection, but moral complacency. permission to do something bad because of moral attitude
attitude vs decision..not consistent. used up battery
don't question once established and lets loose. moral licensing
don't tell yourself good stuff, because you'll stack off
entitlement is downfall. self indulgence to virtue, give up to temptation
warm and fuzzy about virtue
don't just imagine the choice
credit to could have done, without doing
trust the feeling to be good
strain
don't feel like a saint
resist rules
help with goals, not right thing to do
true moral dilemma vs moral difficulty
give in to little ones to prevent big ones
good behavior, to bad
mortal worth vs moral licensing
progress
marking progress is self sabotage
self control success, silences higher self
goal liberation
one step forward, liberates terrible outcomes, 2 step back
mistake what actually is done vs what is to be done
stick to goals
commit to goal
how committed to goal vs what is progress on goal
not what you really want
remember the why, commitment not progress
healthy choices actually gives you the decision to feel good about decision but you choose what you really wanted
the opportunity to act on goal vs real pleasure goal
best self control, worst control when best was offered
persist differently in the near future than today
always next time, tomorrow...choose virtuous option
indulgent choice...
future good behavior tomorrow...
indulge today, change tomorrow
alternate reality?
ideal world
look into future don't want to do today
confident future behavior make up for it
anomaly vs reality
positive expectations...for inaction
stop pretending
commitment to all future
do i always want the consequences of putting it off today as again tomorrow?
do i always want the consequence of eating a cake everyday?
do not give permission of good or bad days.
vegetarian before dinner
cant tell yourself beef lunch and broccoli dinner
new rule is constraint, easy
what you do tomorrow is different from today: illusion
if you break rule, you have to break rule everyday
halo effect of angel for saturation, yes to temptation
virtue as justification to give in
health halo, feel good
virtuous choices as negating indulgences
pair cheeseburger with salad, salad crowd brain and induce more on eating
bargain hunters buy more than intended
gift buyers buy more for yourself
charity with chocolate makes chocolate guilt free
1% virtue to 99% vice. conflicted for goals
moral listening
fat free halo
snack well syndrome
organic, nutritional sense
buy 1 get 1 free natural organic
shopper seduced by savings buys more
steeper discount bigger high bargain
saved vs total spending
spend without guilt
under spending limit, getting good deal
going green, change the way we think about ourselves
steal, cheat, virtue of green justifies sin
reduce guilt, licensing bad behaviors
stop thinking about problem, feel free to waste more
bad behavior license when relieved
fine for late pickups had more late pickups
replaces harmful act illusion for good
strengthen idea to save environment rather than to buy off our sins
self control is punishment, indulgence is reward?
core values
too quick for moral credit
right and wrong vs what what really want sabotages effort
willpower, good becomes bad, remember goals and values
virtue and vice
good, permission to be bad?
follow thru from today to tomorrow
halo effect
pursue goal, or controlled? remember why you were good, not if you deserve a reward
shock to rat
pleasure when stimulated, shock
promise of reward, pleasure
possibility of another shock than guaranteed food
shock itself
brain stimulation
bliss
behavior
other than true satisfaction
never achieve self satisfaction
anxious,compulsion, not pleasure
promising them with pleasure, just press lever 1 more time, they can get pleasure
reward system
do this again, more stimulation, never drought satisfaction
stimuli
chasing promise of happiness
our want
dopamine rush, arousal, awake, possibility of feeling good, seeking wanting desire,
not actual reward
anticipation but not experiencing reward
promise of dinner Pavlov dog
win money
won money, quieted down
joy of winning
dopamine was for action,
anticipation, not pleasure
flood of dopamine, critical of survival
fixating or repeating
seducing
promise of happiness struggle to stay alive
keep on hunting and working
food is scarce, ok
dopamine response
instant gratification
chance of new message, keep hitting refresh, compulsive behavior
jolts of dopamine
technology
manipulate
big win anytime, compelling hard to quit
amphetamine use
firing dopamine
lever to exhaustion
off dopamine enhancing drug
brain
promise of reward
driven to chase pleasure cost of well being
risk taking out of control
promise of reward
obsession and compulsion
sugar salt fat, dopamine crazy
shopping dopamine, free samples
reward seeking state of mind, free and food
not utilitarian items like dishwasher
something to satisfy the seeking of reward
samples decrease hunger and thirst, but innate desire and behavior
novelty and reward
thrill is back
dopamine
treats difference as money earned
amazon, time pressure, scarcity
scent air, lure sugar cookies
dopamine neurons
lilac, normal scents for good
coconut beach ocean
reduce anxiety
dopamine detective
manipulating them
bargain prices
share you
empowered by observations
irresistible seems normal at home
dopamine rush
dopamine delivery in mail
buzzers
tempt you see for what they are and resist them
feel desires
stimulate desires
dopamine least interesting
dopamine, fantasize payoffs
boring items dopamine
beat deadline
on time, promise of reward
fishbowl
prize if done
unpredictable reward
big win than guaranteed reward
dopamine , i will challenge
music tv
chocolate
procrastinated projects
best possible outcomes of hard work
link dopamine firing
willpower challenge, promise of reward
Christmas music reward
promise of reward
started
promise of reward stressful
dopamine, pursue happiness
unhappy in the process
carrot and a stick
promise of reward
desire carrot
stress stick
anxious object of desire, life or death
desire and stress
startled arousal
chocolate
pleasure and anxiety
out of control
stress to not yet having it
stress of desire, promote of feeling good > actually feeling bad
relieve anxiety,
most happy on the way to the mall
feelings shifted, tense, crowded, time pressure
impatient and anxious, angry
relief of credit card
anxiety of
happy going to the mall
window shopping good
hope was carrot
anger and anxiety was stick
newfound suspicion
window shopping for max happiness,
goes home happier
reward smart decisions
how to reward yourself
reward for happiness
crave, work, suffer for desire
highest stock return, wanting for guarantee of happiness
promise of reward powerful
misery than satisfaction
pursuit of reward, never stops
refuse to eat it
i wont power challenge
get enough of it
disappointed, ashamed
no happier
false reward
reconcile reward with what it actual experiences
adjust expectations
slow down
binging
self control
less stress
false promise of reward
seeking happiness is source of misery
test promise of reward
mindfully indulge, anxiety
give permission to give in, expectations
does it go away?
when do satisfied?
out of time?
indulging less to get satisfied
reality of experience
less than satisfied
prize of reward expectations
importance of desire
outside of promise of reward
life without wants less self control,
lost anything
isolated
lost hope, depression
no desire
no reward
habits with no satisfaction
no anticipate pleasure, lose motivation
disconnects, drains hope
apathy
paradox of reward
happiness
temptation
no reward no motivation
interested engaged in life
wanting real reward and false reward, learn distinction
easier
temptation
brains big lie
desire is action
threat to self control or willpower
desire is a tool, when to follow
grantee happiness, pursuit of reward
wanting stress and anxiety
i will
linking it with dopamine with procrastination
mindfully
satisfy
reality match
relief to flee danger, wont will feel good,
ineffective
16% eat reduce stress
stress anxiety
feeling bad gives in
stress induced willpower failures
guilt and self criticism
stress makes us want
stress out lab subjects
dentist, crave cigar
stress, run for reward
real world stress lead to cravings
rescue mission
reward seeking state
promise of reward
reward is only feel better
intense cravings
under stress any craving is tempting
feeling bad about yourself
expected cake happy
reward + relief, illogical behavior
worried about finances will shop
buying will make you feel better
more food
procrastinators put it off longer to stop thinking about it
goal to feel better trumps the goal of self control
most effective
exercising and playing sports
music
family friends
hobby
massage
outside
medicating, yoga
least effective
gambling
shopping internet
tv movies
shopping drugs
no dopamine, instead boost serotonin, GABA
oxytocin
shut down response
healing response
underestimate how it feel
mis-predict happiness
talk out of happiness than promise of relief
numbed, with dopamine
seem like too much trouble
commit to yoga
talk out of it
encouragement
terror management
human terrified about own deaths
mortality relief
longer shopping list
bolster self image
buying things optimistic
warning on cigarettes triggers death and crave more, stress reduce
what is terrifying you?
temptation procrastination
fear
drank intended to
misery, guilty and ashamed
worse the person felt, the guilt drove back to drinking
what the hell effect
diet was blown
guilt shame loss of control
no way out but to keep going
more misery
break the guilt that sabotage self control
better about giving in
not to be too hard on yourself message
self forgiveness stop itself
special message
encouraged to forgive yourself
getting rid of guilt
feeling bad leads to giving in
control weaknesses
self control
external support
no severe failures
stricter with themselves
don't be harder on yourself
self criticism worse self control
depression drains self control
kindness and compassion more motivation and better self control
forgave themselves
accountability
self compassionate not self critical
feedback from others,
takes away shame and guilt
nothing to escape
easier to reflect
not repeat it
self criticism kills
human, everyone struggles
loses self control
what you say to a friend?
fear and self doubt erase
big goal. setbacks are human
compassionate
encourage student
reasonable goal
mentor, good friend
feel good
do not be overwhelmed by guilt, resolve to change
change setting regulation, relief and control
completely different person
goal
deciding
taller
burst of hope, goal
unrealistic optimism
decisions to change
good feelings
false hope syndrome
strategy for change not feeling better
feeling of hope
resulting to change
giving up and starting again
false hope syndrome not actual change
unrealistic sabotages
fix feelings
pessimism succeed
vow keep resolution
when am i most likely to give in?
scenario in mind
role playing visualize succeed
planing for failure
compassion, not doubt,
plan into action
feeling bad gives in
dropping guilt stronger
turn to anxious down
plan to not give in
future on sale
delay satisfaction for more satisfaction
self control
bigger brain = more irrational
rationalize bad decisions
cannot see future clearly
putting future on sale
fleeting satisfaction
delayed discount
delay will make it worth less
shrank
immediate satisfaction over delayed
temptation and procrastination
long term cost, fair trade?
catch reversal
blinded by reward
bounded rationality, unless we wait
reward seeking mode
did not respond to future reward
irrelevant, 60 miles or 60 days, more relevant, dopamine
reward system
cool off reward
temptation narrow possibility
not seeing immediate reward, mental calculations vs primal feelings
not seeing it makes it calculable
putting it away out of sight makes it out of mind
less activated
10 minute wait for temptation
competing long term reward
physical or visual distance to overcome procrastination
do 10 minutes and then you can quit
10 minute rule
intention to quit
discount rate
resistant gratification
do not stare at reward you are trying to suppress
long term goal
happiness today vs tomorrow
discount rate
so focused on present, future make is more important
lower discount rate
reward you start with is what you want to keep
delayed gratification
think about the future reward first
imagine that long term reward already yours
give up small present for bigger future
is this worth not becoming a doctor?
Photoshop head on what your future looks like
destroy your escape route
committing your future self completely
derailed by exhaustion
no choice but to go forward
self control, burn ship
reach our goals, limit options, committance
nuclear determinance
self sabotage
constrain that self as if another person
cunning courage creativity
tempted self last minute enemy
study self, see weaknesses
bind with rationale
dismantle laptop
future self on course
freedom internet app
procrastinate
captured discipline
lock up in safe
money where your goals are
commit your future self
do it before blinded by temptation
prepay to everything
easier to act on rational wish
difficult to reverse actions
motivate your future self
stikk.com
tax to the immediate reward
cost of failure more painful
rewards and pre commitments
goal process
atm money manager
rational preferences than impulse
lowers discount rate, emphasis on future
legal waiver
future you 2.0
better
idealize them
save present self form any pain and disregard future self like it was a stranger
more suffering for future self and complete strangers
present self is half of suffering
delayed payment
future self so nobility
no ideal future and same old self
waiting for someone else to show up and change so effortlessly
over commit yourself
stop waiting for you 2.0 to show up
afraid what yo find out
admit there is no other version of you
why the future feels different
inability to access future thought and feelings
not as real as present desires
immediacy of urgency
picturing someone else enjoying it
traits of another person
determine outside than inside
self reaction
gratification
future self money
give more later
expectations of future self bias
future self is a stranger
invest in a stranger's future
self interest
money away from a stranger
future self continuity when your future is no longer you
high future self continuity, better future
estranged from future self
get to know future self
retirement age selves
retirement age
age progression was me
from name, passion in life
hypothetical
twice as much money
low future self continuity
create a future memory
imagine the future
imagine yourself next week
vivid future feels wont regret
send a outre self
future me.org
future day on writer
long term goals
think like
future look back on life
contemplate what to write letter
imagine future self
increase willpower
hoped future self
feared future self
commit to change
consequence of not changing
pride gratitude regret
time to give in?
current happiness to reward
farsighted
pre commit to right time to spurge
re framing as investment
indulgence to gratify
consumers guilt
regret
next hurdle
go to waste, milestone go un celebrated
always more to do
see future
show up
10 minute temptation
lower discount rate
resist temptation
pre commit future self
meet future self
social influence of others by what other people think want and do
contagious
obesity epidemic
contagious 171% obesity, like influences like
drug, sleep, alcohol, depression, obesity,
like influences like
social influence
multiple self that compete for control
present vs future self
parents spouse
children
mirror neurons, for social behavior
correspond to movement
inner representation of how and why
pain from neural neurons
empathy instinct
other people's feelings
brain start anticipate reward
long for treat ourselves
unintentional mimicry
adopt each others positions in conversation
understand each other
intentionally other people's postures, mimic other peoples behavior
impulse
emotion
bad mood equates bad mood
spend more when shopping with friends
mirroring
go over board under social influence
goals are infectious
choose appropriate response
activates in goal in us
goal contagion
goals catch changes own behavior
increase and decrease goals by sharing them...watch your friends
2 competing goals
goal contagion
self control/indulgence
temptation is too strong
immediate gratification
forget other goals
strengthen immune system
enhance self control
firmly committed to goal
conflict with strongest goal
counteractive self control, few minutes thinking about won goals and temptations
immune to temptation
reinforce self goals
rule breakers are contagious
illegal shortcut
contagious goal, whatever they wanted
do not watch reality tv
don't see rule breakers
willpower weakness
catch self control
role models
exemplify
like people you like can bring you down, you let your guard down
relationship
networks of mutual respect
social closeness better than geographic closeness
not us
physical immune system does not attack people like us
they destroy others not like us
they keep people like us
their choices influence our choices
because other people are doing it is the strongest, neighbors try to conserve
altruistic, everyone else is doing it
poll numbers, what other people want must be good
trusting the tribe is wrong
independent minded person, no one will ever influence me
human desire to fit in
social instincts
doing harder thing is the norm
no rational idea. just do social idea
never be a member of
cherished tribe
stats, tribal brain, like everyone else
fatter we get, the thinner we feel, because of "national norm"
new social reality
"normalcy" shift upward
pull to the center is better than different
other people cheat
conform to normalcy
true norm correct behaviors
honest
share you aspire to
tribe to surround with
object of other people's evaluations exemplify self control
cost and benefits
pride and shame
not logical brain
fear, anger
social acceptance and rejection is the right thing
social shaming
wall of shame
people will know
strongest deterrent for social
temptation has no power over reward
go public with willpower challenge
keeping eye on behavior
do right thing
inspire others
imagine pride and scorn, tribe
tribe
do not be socially rejected, try to be within a group
excluded do not do
will power successes
encourage each other
social support to self control
in the next week consistent with goals
did you do what you are supposed to do?
stranger, kept her word
accountability and support
other people in our decisions
own action for ourselves
social proof
will power temptation contagious
mirroring
catch something from
close others
mirror behaviors
pride, public
group project
==
limits of i wont power
don't think about white bears
cant do it
letting go of control
trying to think about it
ironic rebound, push a though away, boomerangs back
deeper in desire when forbidden
mind
thought suppression does not work
not to think about something
the monitor automatically self control
operator and monitor
parallel
monitors hysteria
operator steel to goals
fatigue, operator cannot do its job like the monitor
imbalanced monitor, brings to mind what it is searching for
just outside of conscious
do what you are trying to avoid
no operator, then give in to monitor leads you straight to it
assume it might be true, surfacing
harder to pull away from
urgent message
true: ease to mind
ironic rebound
don't try to push away a though, back to consciousness
not to think about it, comes back stronger
suppression does not work
thinking a thought reduces likelihood of it coming back, because its done
outer reactions
not to think about sad thoughts
don't think self critical thought, just openly contemplate these thoughts
don't suppress
anxious, more like the pain
more anxious
make peace with thoughts, not push them away
understand and treat disorder
social anxiety, worst critics
worse at controlling thoughts
stress center overreacts
cannot point away from worry
accept thoughts and feelings
trust handle thoughts and feelings
less upset if accept it
less anxious overall
not worrying
stop fighting, more freedom from them
feel what you feel, don't believe everything you think
let yourself notice thought
could through mind and body
float by, dissolve
don't make thoughts go away
accept this thought, not believing it
doesn't mean anything
don't drown feeling, don't push away feelings
pull outside of it
breathing and cloud imagery thickness of guild and anger, blow through the clouds
less dense and less suffocating
feel grief, push it away
feel whatever
take away stress
gave permission to feel
ironic rebound sabotage
think any thought: 52
not thought: 9
eat twice as much for thought suppression
yo-yo dieting is not good, everything else is exploited, ineffective
not effective
outlaw food, increase desire
embrace them
act on them
boost willpower
bringing study to mind, increases self control
don't wage war
i will, pursue health
"I Will" challenge...turn to positive
i will, i should be doing to do instead
arrive 5 min early, positive tweak
race you can win
what you want to do instead of what you don't want to do
positive action rather than prohibition
stop and wait when doing it
mindfulness resist it
urges pass eventually
riding the wave
mood, urges to smoke
surf the urge, not feeling bad and giving in
stress does no give in
not unhealthy rewards for comfort
disconnect feeling bad and wanting to use
ride out craving without giving in
not acting on an urge
feel, pause, don't give in
inner acceptance outer control
temptation, self criticism and stress
pride, forgiveness, sleep
permission
self awareness
lack of willpower goals
impulse than choices
stress procrastination
why self sabotage
how did you fail?
why lose self control: over estimate
fail to predict when they give in
avoid traps
common humanity of willpower
universal experiences
i will,i wont, i want challenges
self control better than intelligence
w/o desire, depressed
fair, protect
self aware
don't default to easiness
aware to control stimulation
distractions kill self control
brain malleable
obstacles to willpower by testing it to hard stuff to resist
meditate
don't move
move towards thoughts
smaller doses on exercise than to just not do it
noticing off goal, getting back to goal,. self actualization
notice when you're wandering and lost in goals
reward sense
pause and plan
well fueled brain to combat temptations
heart rate variability
heart rate variability
high resist, low tempt
slow breath control
exercise increased self control
strength and self control
antidepressant
white matter, faster connections
grey matter
willpower generator
gave back far what you spend
restores energy
willpower sleep
no i wont challenge
if cant resist, what are you saying yes to?
too much willpower bad
over control is toxic
relax, mental physical rest
poor self control and focus
stress enemy of self control
use self control depletes self control like a battery
corporate culture didn't share values
boosting blood sugar increase willpower
low energy makes them worse
stingy with energy
draining same source of strength
self imposed deadlines, piece wise
do anything small self controls
choose difficult and not easy
yea vs yes, non dominant hand, don't swear
practice building a habit
resist the temptation by visible
you are doing this
overprotective monitoring brain
beliefs, vs true self control
better role in real life increases self control
how you benefit if succeed
who else succeed by you actions, help them
easier over time, difficult now
stronger want that holds more weight
don't just immediate gains, need self discipline
food, workout
license to sin
proven rejection, but moral complacency. permission to do something bad because of moral attitude
attitude vs decision..not consistent. used up battery
don't question once established and lets loose. moral licensing
don't tell yourself good stuff, because you'll stack off
entitlement is downfall. self indulgence to virtue, give up to temptation
warm and fuzzy about virtue
don't just imagine the choice
credit to could have done, without doing
trust the feeling to be good
strain
don't feel like a saint
resist rules
help with goals, not right thing to do
true moral dilemma vs moral difficulty
give in to little ones to prevent big ones
good behavior, to bad
mortal worth vs moral licensing
progress
marking progress is self sabotage
self control success, silences higher self
goal liberation
one step forward, liberates terrible outcomes, 2 step back
mistake what actually is done vs what is to be done
stick to goals
commit to goal
how committed to goal vs what is progress on goal
not what you really want
remember the why, commitment not progress
healthy choices actually gives you the decision to feel good about decision but you choose what you really wanted
the opportunity to act on goal vs real pleasure goal
best self control, worst control when best was offered
persist differently in the near future than today
always next time, tomorrow...choose virtuous option
indulgent choice...
future good behavior tomorrow...
indulge today, change tomorrow
alternate reality?
ideal world
look into future don't want to do today
confident future behavior make up for it
anomaly vs reality
positive expectations...for inaction
stop pretending
commitment to all future
do i always want the consequences of putting it off today as again tomorrow?
do i always want the consequence of eating a cake everyday?
do not give permission of good or bad days.
vegetarian before dinner
cant tell yourself beef lunch and broccoli dinner
new rule is constraint, easy
what you do tomorrow is different from today: illusion
if you break rule, you have to break rule everyday
halo effect of angel for saturation, yes to temptation
virtue as justification to give in
health halo, feel good
virtuous choices as negating indulgences
pair cheeseburger with salad, salad crowd brain and induce more on eating
bargain hunters buy more than intended
gift buyers buy more for yourself
charity with chocolate makes chocolate guilt free
1% virtue to 99% vice. conflicted for goals
moral listening
fat free halo
snack well syndrome
organic, nutritional sense
buy 1 get 1 free natural organic
shopper seduced by savings buys more
steeper discount bigger high bargain
saved vs total spending
spend without guilt
under spending limit, getting good deal
going green, change the way we think about ourselves
steal, cheat, virtue of green justifies sin
reduce guilt, licensing bad behaviors
stop thinking about problem, feel free to waste more
bad behavior license when relieved
fine for late pickups had more late pickups
replaces harmful act illusion for good
strengthen idea to save environment rather than to buy off our sins
self control is punishment, indulgence is reward?
core values
too quick for moral credit
right and wrong vs what what really want sabotages effort
willpower, good becomes bad, remember goals and values
virtue and vice
good, permission to be bad?
follow thru from today to tomorrow
halo effect
pursue goal, or controlled? remember why you were good, not if you deserve a reward
shock to rat
pleasure when stimulated, shock
promise of reward, pleasure
possibility of another shock than guaranteed food
shock itself
brain stimulation
bliss
behavior
other than true satisfaction
never achieve self satisfaction
anxious,compulsion, not pleasure
promising them with pleasure, just press lever 1 more time, they can get pleasure
reward system
do this again, more stimulation, never drought satisfaction
stimuli
chasing promise of happiness
our want
dopamine rush, arousal, awake, possibility of feeling good, seeking wanting desire,
not actual reward
anticipation but not experiencing reward
promise of dinner Pavlov dog
win money
won money, quieted down
joy of winning
dopamine was for action,
anticipation, not pleasure
flood of dopamine, critical of survival
fixating or repeating
seducing
promise of happiness struggle to stay alive
keep on hunting and working
food is scarce, ok
dopamine response
instant gratification
chance of new message, keep hitting refresh, compulsive behavior
jolts of dopamine
technology
manipulate
big win anytime, compelling hard to quit
amphetamine use
firing dopamine
lever to exhaustion
off dopamine enhancing drug
brain
promise of reward
driven to chase pleasure cost of well being
risk taking out of control
promise of reward
obsession and compulsion
sugar salt fat, dopamine crazy
shopping dopamine, free samples
reward seeking state of mind, free and food
not utilitarian items like dishwasher
something to satisfy the seeking of reward
samples decrease hunger and thirst, but innate desire and behavior
novelty and reward
thrill is back
dopamine
treats difference as money earned
amazon, time pressure, scarcity
scent air, lure sugar cookies
dopamine neurons
lilac, normal scents for good
coconut beach ocean
reduce anxiety
dopamine detective
manipulating them
bargain prices
share you
empowered by observations
irresistible seems normal at home
dopamine rush
dopamine delivery in mail
buzzers
tempt you see for what they are and resist them
feel desires
stimulate desires
dopamine least interesting
dopamine, fantasize payoffs
boring items dopamine
beat deadline
on time, promise of reward
fishbowl
prize if done
unpredictable reward
big win than guaranteed reward
dopamine , i will challenge
music tv
chocolate
procrastinated projects
best possible outcomes of hard work
link dopamine firing
willpower challenge, promise of reward
Christmas music reward
promise of reward
started
promise of reward stressful
dopamine, pursue happiness
unhappy in the process
carrot and a stick
promise of reward
desire carrot
stress stick
anxious object of desire, life or death
desire and stress
startled arousal
chocolate
pleasure and anxiety
out of control
stress to not yet having it
stress of desire, promote of feeling good > actually feeling bad
relieve anxiety,
most happy on the way to the mall
feelings shifted, tense, crowded, time pressure
impatient and anxious, angry
relief of credit card
anxiety of
happy going to the mall
window shopping good
hope was carrot
anger and anxiety was stick
newfound suspicion
window shopping for max happiness,
goes home happier
reward smart decisions
how to reward yourself
reward for happiness
crave, work, suffer for desire
highest stock return, wanting for guarantee of happiness
promise of reward powerful
misery than satisfaction
pursuit of reward, never stops
refuse to eat it
i wont power challenge
get enough of it
disappointed, ashamed
no happier
false reward
reconcile reward with what it actual experiences
adjust expectations
slow down
binging
self control
less stress
false promise of reward
seeking happiness is source of misery
test promise of reward
mindfully indulge, anxiety
give permission to give in, expectations
does it go away?
when do satisfied?
out of time?
indulging less to get satisfied
reality of experience
less than satisfied
prize of reward expectations
importance of desire
outside of promise of reward
life without wants less self control,
lost anything
isolated
lost hope, depression
no desire
no reward
habits with no satisfaction
no anticipate pleasure, lose motivation
disconnects, drains hope
apathy
paradox of reward
happiness
temptation
no reward no motivation
interested engaged in life
wanting real reward and false reward, learn distinction
easier
temptation
brains big lie
desire is action
threat to self control or willpower
desire is a tool, when to follow
grantee happiness, pursuit of reward
wanting stress and anxiety
i will
linking it with dopamine with procrastination
mindfully
satisfy
reality match
relief to flee danger, wont will feel good,
ineffective
16% eat reduce stress
stress anxiety
feeling bad gives in
stress induced willpower failures
guilt and self criticism
stress makes us want
stress out lab subjects
dentist, crave cigar
stress, run for reward
real world stress lead to cravings
rescue mission
reward seeking state
promise of reward
reward is only feel better
intense cravings
under stress any craving is tempting
feeling bad about yourself
expected cake happy
reward + relief, illogical behavior
worried about finances will shop
buying will make you feel better
more food
procrastinators put it off longer to stop thinking about it
goal to feel better trumps the goal of self control
most effective
exercising and playing sports
music
family friends
hobby
massage
outside
medicating, yoga
least effective
gambling
shopping internet
tv movies
shopping drugs
no dopamine, instead boost serotonin, GABA
oxytocin
shut down response
healing response
underestimate how it feel
mis-predict happiness
talk out of happiness than promise of relief
numbed, with dopamine
seem like too much trouble
commit to yoga
talk out of it
encouragement
terror management
human terrified about own deaths
mortality relief
longer shopping list
bolster self image
buying things optimistic
warning on cigarettes triggers death and crave more, stress reduce
what is terrifying you?
temptation procrastination
fear
drank intended to
misery, guilty and ashamed
worse the person felt, the guilt drove back to drinking
what the hell effect
diet was blown
guilt shame loss of control
no way out but to keep going
more misery
break the guilt that sabotage self control
better about giving in
not to be too hard on yourself message
self forgiveness stop itself
special message
encouraged to forgive yourself
getting rid of guilt
feeling bad leads to giving in
control weaknesses
self control
external support
no severe failures
stricter with themselves
don't be harder on yourself
self criticism worse self control
depression drains self control
kindness and compassion more motivation and better self control
forgave themselves
accountability
self compassionate not self critical
feedback from others,
takes away shame and guilt
nothing to escape
easier to reflect
not repeat it
self criticism kills
human, everyone struggles
loses self control
what you say to a friend?
fear and self doubt erase
big goal. setbacks are human
compassionate
encourage student
reasonable goal
mentor, good friend
feel good
do not be overwhelmed by guilt, resolve to change
change setting regulation, relief and control
completely different person
goal
deciding
taller
burst of hope, goal
unrealistic optimism
decisions to change
good feelings
false hope syndrome
strategy for change not feeling better
feeling of hope
resulting to change
giving up and starting again
false hope syndrome not actual change
unrealistic sabotages
fix feelings
pessimism succeed
vow keep resolution
when am i most likely to give in?
scenario in mind
role playing visualize succeed
planing for failure
compassion, not doubt,
plan into action
feeling bad gives in
dropping guilt stronger
turn to anxious down
plan to not give in
future on sale
delay satisfaction for more satisfaction
self control
bigger brain = more irrational
rationalize bad decisions
cannot see future clearly
putting future on sale
fleeting satisfaction
delayed discount
delay will make it worth less
shrank
immediate satisfaction over delayed
temptation and procrastination
long term cost, fair trade?
catch reversal
blinded by reward
bounded rationality, unless we wait
reward seeking mode
did not respond to future reward
irrelevant, 60 miles or 60 days, more relevant, dopamine
reward system
cool off reward
temptation narrow possibility
not seeing immediate reward, mental calculations vs primal feelings
not seeing it makes it calculable
putting it away out of sight makes it out of mind
less activated
10 minute wait for temptation
competing long term reward
physical or visual distance to overcome procrastination
do 10 minutes and then you can quit
10 minute rule
intention to quit
discount rate
resistant gratification
do not stare at reward you are trying to suppress
long term goal
happiness today vs tomorrow
discount rate
so focused on present, future make is more important
lower discount rate
reward you start with is what you want to keep
delayed gratification
think about the future reward first
imagine that long term reward already yours
give up small present for bigger future
is this worth not becoming a doctor?
Photoshop head on what your future looks like
destroy your escape route
committing your future self completely
derailed by exhaustion
no choice but to go forward
self control, burn ship
reach our goals, limit options, committance
nuclear determinance
self sabotage
constrain that self as if another person
cunning courage creativity
tempted self last minute enemy
study self, see weaknesses
bind with rationale
dismantle laptop
future self on course
freedom internet app
procrastinate
captured discipline
lock up in safe
money where your goals are
commit your future self
do it before blinded by temptation
prepay to everything
easier to act on rational wish
difficult to reverse actions
motivate your future self
stikk.com
tax to the immediate reward
cost of failure more painful
rewards and pre commitments
goal process
atm money manager
rational preferences than impulse
lowers discount rate, emphasis on future
legal waiver
future you 2.0
better
idealize them
save present self form any pain and disregard future self like it was a stranger
more suffering for future self and complete strangers
present self is half of suffering
delayed payment
future self so nobility
no ideal future and same old self
waiting for someone else to show up and change so effortlessly
over commit yourself
stop waiting for you 2.0 to show up
afraid what yo find out
admit there is no other version of you
why the future feels different
inability to access future thought and feelings
not as real as present desires
immediacy of urgency
picturing someone else enjoying it
traits of another person
determine outside than inside
self reaction
gratification
future self money
give more later
expectations of future self bias
future self is a stranger
invest in a stranger's future
self interest
money away from a stranger
future self continuity when your future is no longer you
high future self continuity, better future
estranged from future self
get to know future self
retirement age selves
retirement age
age progression was me
from name, passion in life
hypothetical
twice as much money
low future self continuity
create a future memory
imagine the future
imagine yourself next week
vivid future feels wont regret
send a outre self
future me.org
future day on writer
long term goals
think like
future look back on life
contemplate what to write letter
imagine future self
increase willpower
hoped future self
feared future self
commit to change
consequence of not changing
pride gratitude regret
time to give in?
current happiness to reward
farsighted
pre commit to right time to spurge
re framing as investment
indulgence to gratify
consumers guilt
regret
next hurdle
go to waste, milestone go un celebrated
always more to do
see future
show up
10 minute temptation
lower discount rate
resist temptation
pre commit future self
meet future self
social influence of others by what other people think want and do
contagious
obesity epidemic
contagious 171% obesity, like influences like
drug, sleep, alcohol, depression, obesity,
like influences like
social influence
multiple self that compete for control
present vs future self
parents spouse
children
mirror neurons, for social behavior
correspond to movement
inner representation of how and why
pain from neural neurons
empathy instinct
other people's feelings
brain start anticipate reward
long for treat ourselves
unintentional mimicry
adopt each others positions in conversation
understand each other
intentionally other people's postures, mimic other peoples behavior
impulse
emotion
bad mood equates bad mood
spend more when shopping with friends
mirroring
go over board under social influence
goals are infectious
choose appropriate response
activates in goal in us
goal contagion
goals catch changes own behavior
increase and decrease goals by sharing them...watch your friends
2 competing goals
goal contagion
self control/indulgence
temptation is too strong
immediate gratification
forget other goals
strengthen immune system
enhance self control
firmly committed to goal
conflict with strongest goal
counteractive self control, few minutes thinking about won goals and temptations
immune to temptation
reinforce self goals
rule breakers are contagious
illegal shortcut
contagious goal, whatever they wanted
do not watch reality tv
don't see rule breakers
willpower weakness
catch self control
role models
exemplify
like people you like can bring you down, you let your guard down
relationship
networks of mutual respect
social closeness better than geographic closeness
not us
physical immune system does not attack people like us
they destroy others not like us
they keep people like us
their choices influence our choices
because other people are doing it is the strongest, neighbors try to conserve
altruistic, everyone else is doing it
poll numbers, what other people want must be good
trusting the tribe is wrong
independent minded person, no one will ever influence me
human desire to fit in
social instincts
doing harder thing is the norm
no rational idea. just do social idea
never be a member of
cherished tribe
stats, tribal brain, like everyone else
fatter we get, the thinner we feel, because of "national norm"
new social reality
"normalcy" shift upward
pull to the center is better than different
other people cheat
conform to normalcy
true norm correct behaviors
honest
share you aspire to
tribe to surround with
object of other people's evaluations exemplify self control
cost and benefits
pride and shame
not logical brain
fear, anger
social acceptance and rejection is the right thing
social shaming
wall of shame
people will know
strongest deterrent for social
temptation has no power over reward
go public with willpower challenge
keeping eye on behavior
do right thing
inspire others
imagine pride and scorn, tribe
tribe
do not be socially rejected, try to be within a group
excluded do not do
will power successes
encourage each other
social support to self control
in the next week consistent with goals
did you do what you are supposed to do?
stranger, kept her word
accountability and support
other people in our decisions
own action for ourselves
social proof
will power temptation contagious
mirroring
catch something from
close others
mirror behaviors
pride, public
group project
==
limits of i wont power
don't think about white bears
cant do it
letting go of control
trying to think about it
ironic rebound, push a though away, boomerangs back
deeper in desire when forbidden
mind
thought suppression does not work
not to think about something
the monitor automatically self control
operator and monitor
parallel
monitors hysteria
operator steel to goals
fatigue, operator cannot do its job like the monitor
imbalanced monitor, brings to mind what it is searching for
just outside of conscious
do what you are trying to avoid
no operator, then give in to monitor leads you straight to it
assume it might be true, surfacing
harder to pull away from
urgent message
true: ease to mind
ironic rebound
don't try to push away a though, back to consciousness
not to think about it, comes back stronger
suppression does not work
thinking a thought reduces likelihood of it coming back, because its done
outer reactions
not to think about sad thoughts
don't think self critical thought, just openly contemplate these thoughts
don't suppress
anxious, more like the pain
more anxious
make peace with thoughts, not push them away
understand and treat disorder
social anxiety, worst critics
worse at controlling thoughts
stress center overreacts
cannot point away from worry
accept thoughts and feelings
trust handle thoughts and feelings
less upset if accept it
less anxious overall
not worrying
stop fighting, more freedom from them
feel what you feel, don't believe everything you think
let yourself notice thought
could through mind and body
float by, dissolve
don't make thoughts go away
accept this thought, not believing it
doesn't mean anything
don't drown feeling, don't push away feelings
pull outside of it
breathing and cloud imagery thickness of guild and anger, blow through the clouds
less dense and less suffocating
feel grief, push it away
feel whatever
take away stress
gave permission to feel
ironic rebound sabotage
think any thought: 52
not thought: 9
eat twice as much for thought suppression
yo-yo dieting is not good, everything else is exploited, ineffective
not effective
outlaw food, increase desire
embrace them
act on them
boost willpower
bringing study to mind, increases self control
don't wage war
i will, pursue health
"I Will" challenge...turn to positive
i will, i should be doing to do instead
arrive 5 min early, positive tweak
race you can win
what you want to do instead of what you don't want to do
positive action rather than prohibition
stop and wait when doing it
mindfulness resist it
urges pass eventually
riding the wave
mood, urges to smoke
surf the urge, not feeling bad and giving in
stress does no give in
not unhealthy rewards for comfort
disconnect feeling bad and wanting to use
ride out craving without giving in
not acting on an urge
feel, pause, don't give in
inner acceptance outer control
temptation, self criticism and stress
pride, forgiveness, sleep
permission
self awareness
wwww
packages cable, tv, phone
someone's not getting paid
infrastructure is there such as oil vs electric cars
onstar is a waste of internet service that could be accessed on your phone
your car becomes a phone with SIM card plug in
your car becomes a roaming phone
don't disdain filesharing, work with it
similar to streaming tv online
we are getting your broadcast, but the broadcaster is not getting paid
similar to itunes and apple store and napster
now the floodgates are open everyone is streaming like firesharing and there is not 1 source, multiple sources to stop
phenomenon
tesla car combines gps internet phone with phone service
a lot of companies are in cali, the nature of their behavior dictates the whole country
like buying books to own and not using libraries, similar with the amazon book store
i hate how majors segregate topics to learn, like how it is a artificial wall so that it provides the scarcity for someone else'e paycheck..back to the universal man, da vinci
how historical event have minor affects on each other instead of separate bubbles, mozart and revolutionary war
how people are needed to tie topics together in spaces between topics
google questions ping pong balls in room
barbers in america, 10% are bald
someone's not getting paid
infrastructure is there such as oil vs electric cars
onstar is a waste of internet service that could be accessed on your phone
your car becomes a phone with SIM card plug in
your car becomes a roaming phone
don't disdain filesharing, work with it
similar to streaming tv online
we are getting your broadcast, but the broadcaster is not getting paid
similar to itunes and apple store and napster
now the floodgates are open everyone is streaming like firesharing and there is not 1 source, multiple sources to stop
phenomenon
tesla car combines gps internet phone with phone service
a lot of companies are in cali, the nature of their behavior dictates the whole country
like buying books to own and not using libraries, similar with the amazon book store
i hate how majors segregate topics to learn, like how it is a artificial wall so that it provides the scarcity for someone else'e paycheck..back to the universal man, da vinci
how historical event have minor affects on each other instead of separate bubbles, mozart and revolutionary war
how people are needed to tie topics together in spaces between topics
google questions ping pong balls in room
barbers in america, 10% are bald
Working with Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
marketability
initiative empathy adaptability persuasiveness
IQ, less EQ
more leadership camp, less EQ
resilience initiative optimism adaptability
children lonely depressed angry unruly aggressive nervous impulsive worry
learn on job listening oral communication
adaptability to creative responses setbacks obstacles
personal management
confidence
motivation towards goals
sense of wanting to develop career
take pride in accomplishment
group interpersonal effectiveness
cooperativeness teamwork
skills at negotiating disagreements
contribution
leadership
competence reading writing math
communication interpersonal initiative
iq is 25%, 10%, 4%...75% job unexplained
eq needs higher weight for barriers
school superior performance threshold requirement confidence
eq better
exp, expertise matter, excellence
playfulness, not strict, better mood
mind and heart
technical expertise
fun feeling..cognitive competencies
emotional competencies
skill feeling at play
artful effect of wit mood shift
learned
influence
empathy read others social skills handle artfully
self awareness
motivation
self regulation motivation
empathy
adeptness in relationship
emotional competence translated
trustworthiness self regulation handling impulses emotions well
outstanding in work
potential for learning
diverse work team
conscientiousness
self control
empathy
service orientation
political awareness
humor
respect confidentiality
feedback
social skills
scientist, analytical thinking rank 3rd, after influence , drive to achieve
not just brilliance
strive for goals
present results, speak up and be heard
flexibility teams
excellence
emotional prominence, leadership
personal ineptitude lowers and corrodes commitment, apathy, acrimony, hostility
pattern recognition, big picture thinking
strategic far into future
emotional competence
entrance level is IQ
rigidity, poor relationships
changes adapt organizational culture, respond to feedback on
sensitive demanding critical, alienate
fatal handicaps
moodiness angry outbursts
calm confident dependable
not defensiveness, not pass on blame, covering up
take responsibility on failure and not ruminate
derailed, poorly
admit failures, moving on
actions to fix problems
not overly ambitious, too ready to get ahead at the expense of other people
high integrity, strong support from others, strong concern for needs of colleagues
empathy sensitivity
too abrasive arrogant intimidation manipulative charm
empathetic sensitive, to everyone
cooperative, diversity
perseverance try harder
finding mentor, more hours
character, not just tech competence
intuitive passionate, bold but grounded
on job effectiveness
gut feeling, something wrong with proposition
don't bury misgivings
intangibles, trustworthiness abilities
gut feelings more ancient,
hunches don't ignore data at own risk
primordial roots
emotional centers
amygdala
pre-frontal lobes
semantic gut feeling responds
wisdom repository
need feelings about thoughts, preferences
not just rational arguments
emotional bottom line hunch
gut feeling
stream of feeling
thought feeling together
that sense
educated guess
intuition
encounter
wisdom judgement impression
self awareness
emotional awareness, self assessment, self confidence
affect performance
competence
links think do and say
feelings affect performance goals, values guiding awareness
fundamental
emotional run amuck
motivated
accuracy
attainment to stream of feelings
feelings we deal with
social appropriateness
ebb and flow of daily routine
rhythm and pace of modern life
introspective, take it
space air time..not underground
not inner voice
conviction cultivate it!
intuition
meditate daily
voice of feeling
doing nothing productively
not time waster
putting aside goal orientated abilities, open mind
inner barometer
put aside all goal orientated activates into deeper quieter sensitivity
feelings essential value
gauge worthwhile
action and value
uneasiness
deep doubts
guilt shame
nagging second thought
quasi-ness remorse
emotional drag
hinder or sabotage efforts
max intention and energy available for pursuit
minimize emotional static
speak up to deep values at work
impressionable
value, motivation
not just money
not just wealth
excitement challenge freedom creative, help others by help themselves
don't work for money alone
passion work purpose
meaning engage to fullest extent commitment talent energy challenge skill
fit to what matters
not just any road, more aware, not drift not lost
repetitive boring?
best skills expressed in work
sure rudder deepest values
resource limits abilities
strength and weaknesses reflective, continuous learning learn from experience self development humor perspective open to candid feedback
accuracy of self assessment performance
aware of limits
work with strength they lack
admit shortcomings, competitors and organizational politics
acknowledge harsh truth
defensiveness, denial
minimization facts, rationalizations , filter out info, excuses
rob facts of emotional truth
collude with denial
honest constructive feedback
honest open talk with person, not behind back
learned habits
do better
arrogant impatient, listen talk others
slow down
aware hoe damage and poison our intentions
motive to change
superior performance
self aware
need to change goals, admission values mission
self awareness good
self confidence
self assurance
voice views unpopular, what is right
decisive sound decisions
despite uncertainties and pressures
Sine qua non confidence
plunge ahead, leader
incompetence
failure, manifest helplessness powerlessness crippling self doubt
not arrogance brashness
reality aligned
self presentation presences
charisma
inspire confidence
efficacious
catalyst movers
favorably stack up
justify decisions actions
believes in, despite opposition disapproval disagreement
decisive
self efficacy performance
positive judgment of capacity to perform
believe
persist
not paralyze inept
not give up opinions and judgement
i cant is crippling
voice ideas
apprehension? panic?
emotional > executive
working memory take away
emergency mode
threats opportunities
amygdala hijack natural defense,over brink disaster
panic button
CRF, stress hormones cortisol
fight or flight
anger panic
sustained stress reduces intellect
self control under stress adapt to change
crisis uncertainty shifting challenges
don't be tense, composed
not deny or repress true feelings
anger sad fear drain energy and mental
not over control
not stifle feelings
not chronic
inhibit thinking
hours, stress hormones
add to it
anger, panic
sustained stress fueling effect on intellect
initiate and inhibit actions
prefrontal lobe not override, not inhibit
false alarm self regulation
composed
bad mood has creativity, effectiveness, energy, motivation, right injustice
anxiety urgency
don't over control tension
chronic
interactions thinking, performance
handing impulse
dealing with upsets
consciousness
positive, unflappable
focused under pressure
un-phased under stress
trivial demands
relax
bath yoga, meditate exercise
daily practice resets trigger point of amygdala
self control personal needs vs company
invigorating challenge, energy enthusiasm
good stress, bad stress,
challenge mobilize motivate
overwhelm paralyze demoralize
catecholamines, action
good
sympathetic nervous system
optimal think perform
trustworthiness consciousness
ethically
approach
trust reliability authenticity
admit mistakes
confront unethical
tough stands
accountable
careful
open honest consistent
commitments
promise
organized
integrity
don't hide don't break
courage
punctual
scrupulous
follow rules concern
help out
consciousness stays
innovative seek fresh ideas, entertain new ideas ways
adaptability change open flexible
rapid change
risk teams
let go of old assumptions
gamble new
new info
unknown anxiety
multiple perspectives
emotional
comfort in ambiguity
calm in unexpected
self confidence sureness
openness to change
entertain radical risky
courage to pursue
pleasure in originality
simplify problems
original patterns and solutions
don't get lost in details, big picture
novel ideas not shy away
past is not future
roles autonomy
interdisciplinary teams
initiation, implementation
idea generators
abstract ideas
narrow range in expertise
influence political awareness
selling and allies
confidence in key people
exhilarating
not task itself, special state of mind while working
flow
best work no matter what work
challenge lose in work
concentrated, drop out of time
effortlessly
pleasure
motivation built in
difficult look easy
absorbed ,delight
difficult demanding, brain minimal energy and activity used
if bored, apathetic, anxiety irrelevant ways of firing
flow: efficient precise
less cortisol and arousal
flow 50% of work, 20% in free time
leisure, apathy
not boring, challenge, apathy, stagnation
stale
boredom and anxiety
apathy
this matters
eu-stress
positive engaged
attentive and interested
energized sustained effort adrenaline rush
memory feelings habits
amygdala
clearinghouse priorities in life
motivation
matters most vs irrelevant
not neutral
apathy or appetites indulgence
achievement commitment initiative optimism
result orientated
high drive challenge goals
pursue info reduce uncertainty
calculate risks
improve performance
urge innovations
challenging goals
entrepreneurial ideas
competitive drive, single mindedness
performance
goals standard feedback
not low
not fuzzy job
objectives
performance feedback
quantifiable nature of work?
useful
goals info perspective
commitment purpose
choices
opportunities
emotional attachment resonate with value
personal sacrifices
shared goals commitment
allegiance
devotion collective goals
loyalty, onerous
not just visitors resident
not cynicism
trust
optimism persistent
not just failure, setbacks imaginable circumstance not just personal flaw
opportunity before
window of anticipation
initiative empathy adaptability persuasiveness
IQ, less EQ
more leadership camp, less EQ
resilience initiative optimism adaptability
children lonely depressed angry unruly aggressive nervous impulsive worry
learn on job listening oral communication
adaptability to creative responses setbacks obstacles
personal management
confidence
motivation towards goals
sense of wanting to develop career
take pride in accomplishment
group interpersonal effectiveness
cooperativeness teamwork
skills at negotiating disagreements
contribution
leadership
competence reading writing math
communication interpersonal initiative
iq is 25%, 10%, 4%...75% job unexplained
eq needs higher weight for barriers
school superior performance threshold requirement confidence
eq better
exp, expertise matter, excellence
playfulness, not strict, better mood
mind and heart
technical expertise
fun feeling..cognitive competencies
emotional competencies
skill feeling at play
artful effect of wit mood shift
learned
influence
empathy read others social skills handle artfully
self awareness
motivation
self regulation motivation
empathy
adeptness in relationship
emotional competence translated
trustworthiness self regulation handling impulses emotions well
outstanding in work
potential for learning
diverse work team
conscientiousness
self control
empathy
service orientation
political awareness
humor
respect confidentiality
feedback
social skills
scientist, analytical thinking rank 3rd, after influence , drive to achieve
not just brilliance
strive for goals
present results, speak up and be heard
flexibility teams
excellence
emotional prominence, leadership
personal ineptitude lowers and corrodes commitment, apathy, acrimony, hostility
pattern recognition, big picture thinking
strategic far into future
emotional competence
entrance level is IQ
rigidity, poor relationships
changes adapt organizational culture, respond to feedback on
sensitive demanding critical, alienate
fatal handicaps
moodiness angry outbursts
calm confident dependable
not defensiveness, not pass on blame, covering up
take responsibility on failure and not ruminate
derailed, poorly
admit failures, moving on
actions to fix problems
not overly ambitious, too ready to get ahead at the expense of other people
high integrity, strong support from others, strong concern for needs of colleagues
empathy sensitivity
too abrasive arrogant intimidation manipulative charm
empathetic sensitive, to everyone
cooperative, diversity
perseverance try harder
finding mentor, more hours
character, not just tech competence
intuitive passionate, bold but grounded
on job effectiveness
gut feeling, something wrong with proposition
don't bury misgivings
intangibles, trustworthiness abilities
gut feelings more ancient,
hunches don't ignore data at own risk
primordial roots
emotional centers
amygdala
pre-frontal lobes
semantic gut feeling responds
wisdom repository
need feelings about thoughts, preferences
not just rational arguments
emotional bottom line hunch
gut feeling
stream of feeling
thought feeling together
that sense
educated guess
intuition
encounter
wisdom judgement impression
self awareness
emotional awareness, self assessment, self confidence
affect performance
competence
links think do and say
feelings affect performance goals, values guiding awareness
fundamental
emotional run amuck
motivated
accuracy
attainment to stream of feelings
feelings we deal with
social appropriateness
ebb and flow of daily routine
rhythm and pace of modern life
introspective, take it
space air time..not underground
not inner voice
conviction cultivate it!
intuition
meditate daily
voice of feeling
doing nothing productively
not time waster
putting aside goal orientated abilities, open mind
inner barometer
put aside all goal orientated activates into deeper quieter sensitivity
feelings essential value
gauge worthwhile
action and value
uneasiness
deep doubts
guilt shame
nagging second thought
quasi-ness remorse
emotional drag
hinder or sabotage efforts
max intention and energy available for pursuit
minimize emotional static
speak up to deep values at work
impressionable
value, motivation
not just money
not just wealth
excitement challenge freedom creative, help others by help themselves
don't work for money alone
passion work purpose
meaning engage to fullest extent commitment talent energy challenge skill
fit to what matters
not just any road, more aware, not drift not lost
repetitive boring?
best skills expressed in work
sure rudder deepest values
resource limits abilities
strength and weaknesses reflective, continuous learning learn from experience self development humor perspective open to candid feedback
accuracy of self assessment performance
aware of limits
work with strength they lack
admit shortcomings, competitors and organizational politics
acknowledge harsh truth
defensiveness, denial
minimization facts, rationalizations , filter out info, excuses
rob facts of emotional truth
collude with denial
honest constructive feedback
honest open talk with person, not behind back
learned habits
do better
arrogant impatient, listen talk others
slow down
aware hoe damage and poison our intentions
motive to change
superior performance
self aware
need to change goals, admission values mission
self awareness good
self confidence
self assurance
voice views unpopular, what is right
decisive sound decisions
despite uncertainties and pressures
Sine qua non confidence
plunge ahead, leader
incompetence
failure, manifest helplessness powerlessness crippling self doubt
not arrogance brashness
reality aligned
self presentation presences
charisma
inspire confidence
efficacious
catalyst movers
favorably stack up
justify decisions actions
believes in, despite opposition disapproval disagreement
decisive
self efficacy performance
positive judgment of capacity to perform
believe
persist
not paralyze inept
not give up opinions and judgement
i cant is crippling
voice ideas
apprehension? panic?
emotional > executive
working memory take away
emergency mode
threats opportunities
amygdala hijack natural defense,over brink disaster
panic button
CRF, stress hormones cortisol
fight or flight
anger panic
sustained stress reduces intellect
self control under stress adapt to change
crisis uncertainty shifting challenges
don't be tense, composed
not deny or repress true feelings
anger sad fear drain energy and mental
not over control
not stifle feelings
not chronic
inhibit thinking
hours, stress hormones
add to it
anger, panic
sustained stress fueling effect on intellect
initiate and inhibit actions
prefrontal lobe not override, not inhibit
false alarm self regulation
composed
bad mood has creativity, effectiveness, energy, motivation, right injustice
anxiety urgency
don't over control tension
chronic
interactions thinking, performance
handing impulse
dealing with upsets
consciousness
positive, unflappable
focused under pressure
un-phased under stress
trivial demands
relax
bath yoga, meditate exercise
daily practice resets trigger point of amygdala
self control personal needs vs company
invigorating challenge, energy enthusiasm
good stress, bad stress,
challenge mobilize motivate
overwhelm paralyze demoralize
catecholamines, action
good
sympathetic nervous system
optimal think perform
trustworthiness consciousness
ethically
approach
trust reliability authenticity
admit mistakes
confront unethical
tough stands
accountable
careful
open honest consistent
commitments
promise
organized
integrity
don't hide don't break
courage
punctual
scrupulous
follow rules concern
help out
consciousness stays
innovative seek fresh ideas, entertain new ideas ways
adaptability change open flexible
rapid change
risk teams
let go of old assumptions
gamble new
new info
unknown anxiety
multiple perspectives
emotional
comfort in ambiguity
calm in unexpected
self confidence sureness
openness to change
entertain radical risky
courage to pursue
pleasure in originality
simplify problems
original patterns and solutions
don't get lost in details, big picture
novel ideas not shy away
past is not future
roles autonomy
interdisciplinary teams
initiation, implementation
idea generators
abstract ideas
narrow range in expertise
influence political awareness
selling and allies
confidence in key people
exhilarating
not task itself, special state of mind while working
flow
best work no matter what work
challenge lose in work
concentrated, drop out of time
effortlessly
pleasure
motivation built in
difficult look easy
absorbed ,delight
difficult demanding, brain minimal energy and activity used
if bored, apathetic, anxiety irrelevant ways of firing
flow: efficient precise
less cortisol and arousal
flow 50% of work, 20% in free time
leisure, apathy
not boring, challenge, apathy, stagnation
stale
boredom and anxiety
apathy
this matters
eu-stress
positive engaged
attentive and interested
energized sustained effort adrenaline rush
memory feelings habits
amygdala
clearinghouse priorities in life
motivation
matters most vs irrelevant
not neutral
apathy or appetites indulgence
achievement commitment initiative optimism
result orientated
high drive challenge goals
pursue info reduce uncertainty
calculate risks
improve performance
urge innovations
challenging goals
entrepreneurial ideas
competitive drive, single mindedness
performance
goals standard feedback
not low
not fuzzy job
objectives
performance feedback
quantifiable nature of work?
useful
goals info perspective
commitment purpose
choices
opportunities
emotional attachment resonate with value
personal sacrifices
shared goals commitment
allegiance
devotion collective goals
loyalty, onerous
not just visitors resident
not cynicism
trust
optimism persistent
not just failure, setbacks imaginable circumstance not just personal flaw
opportunity before
window of anticipation
The Obstacle Is the Way -- Ryan Holiday
what stands in the way becomes a way
practice virtue in impediment, which is expected but not permanent
attitude and approach
method and framework
humidity endurance passionate will
great people are improved by obstacles
soft, abundance entitled are
welcome conflict and expect it
perception deception will
nothing makes us feel this way,we choose to
you decide your own perceptions, thoughts, belief, reactions, you are not powerless
your mind remains your own
freedom from perturbation
gift of fear, what are you avoiding, worry over introspection
real is control and domestication of emotions
defeat emotions with logic
root causes
resourcefulness than anger
catch yourself if it isn't constructive
perceive not just observe
setbacks, issues, obstacles
think perceive act
examine before you act
mental training
see things as really are not just ornamentation
put them in proper place
dead meat, fermented wine
remove you from subjected parts
be objective at face value without baggage
lose the pity and sense of persecution
what your existence will be change situation
fear debilitating distracting
explain fear away
limit expand perspective not just isolated items
context, large picture of world
framing,
the tyranny of being picked
all hoping to solve their problem not his
be the answer to others not the other way around
specific role and accommodate
perception precedes action, right will follow right
control within your own circumstances and your responsibility
don't accept everything as final
take chance and make it happen
if you can change, muster it
unlikely and impossible, know the difference
argue and complain are choices
what is within out power is enhances it
challenge, make it best anyways
exist in the present, deal with situation at hand
focus on moment not monsters
don't spend day in explanation not just bad constructs
what is in front of you right now, ignore what it means or represents
reality is not bound by rules of people
life is malleable
aim high, rock the boat
your self has little bearing on what is possible or impossible
don't listen closely of others
be open, question
don't look for a way out, don't feel sorry for ourselves
believe in own ability to succeed
embody trait of being objective
reject first objections because first objections are fear
conventional wisdom too conservative
make something when nothing to look forward
give all you got
most creative when nothing to lose state
obstacles are opportunity
try new ways of communication with nothing to lose
outmaneuver them
appetite for risks and instincts
learn from bad bosses
safety net is going to be a new job anyways
adversarial growth
struggle is growth
mental flip
post traumatic growth
enemy is misconception, hurts less despite obstacle
rude disrespectful
conniving, no apology when u make example
critical, lower expectation easier to exceed
lazy, your actions are more admirable
didn't he underbelly of the negative in to the positive
nothing is bad as you think
see the world as what it is and what it is that you must act
directed action as a whole
best of courage
deliberation boldness persistence
action is cure to all predicaments
channel rage and pain into training
speak against wind, with pebbles, in one breath
lock yourself away until you are better
defensive wounds, out hands up to break fall instead of breaking face
don't complain, act
articulate solutions
don't let else to handle it, don't let obstacles sit there and un obstacle itself
act start now
do with what happens and what was given
shit into sugar
don't quit, don't feel sorry
don't be backed into a corner and force you hand because you have to, people have choices have paralysis
get back to work
don't let obstacle get stronger, it is a loan that compounds and get bigger if you don't act sooner
you are in debt of all the obstacles
action is paying it off
get momentum on your side
don't turn your nose at offensive offer or feel sorry for yourself
get going
take opening and triumph ahead
something better might come along? but you do nothing
the bells has been run
enemy s at your door , opportunity never shows up, obstacles show up
don't give enemies life
take the swing take the chance
stay moving, push ahead, bicycle effect
create momentum yourself
chisel until gone
genius is persistence in disguise
unity of purpose deafness of doubt
working at it works
don't give up change paths
persist efforts, resist other temptation
against impedance that lay siege to your own life
action fail is 2 sides on same coin
anticipation of failure hurts less
soft body and hard headed.. terrible
take failure as feedback
the way of failure shows what is the way
focus on process
pieces
do it well on what you need to do right now
don't over react focus on what to do next
conserve your energy on emotion
right here right now
don't worry about results or whole picture
do your job do it right
when action is priority, vanity disappears
prestige out, onerous, nothing is beneath us
do your job
answer well with right action
always act right
'
flexible fluid defiant
do the right way
pragmatic any ways that work
don't wait til conditions are right or when information is complete
do what you got
results
pinch what you want it to be and how it is right now
bridge the difference and stop complaining
all it matters accomplishment
when stakes are high, do dramatic measures
don't have to be straight line, don't look for perfect solution
just find what you want you want it to be like and where you want to go
do the best with what you got instead of the perfect
get it done and it works
radical practical
progress not perfection
make obstacles irrelevant
resistance is futile
only 6% battles are won with direct approach
face unfavorable condition against stalemate
find leverage
don't beat strength
calculated force where it would be effective
don't do brute forces, use proper resources
the hard way, the longest way around is the shortest way home
civil disobedience
don't attack , withdrawal and have it attack you,
exaggerate the weakness
make it counterproductive
power of opposites
ghandi, MLK
in defensive and evil
make obstacles defeat themselves
restraint and abstinence best option
don't push back, pull until they lose balance
don't challenge, find common ground
get support,
absorb other powers as our own
Russia retreating
don't push
solace
advantage
use bigness against itself
fortress vs prison
channel ability
don't give in to frustration, undermine rules
don't act out, act
physical looseness with constraint
tune out external stresses
mind like water move around things
seize the offensive, take chance
conjure and make chance servant
direct, neutralize negatives
don't less crisis squander, use the negative to get movement done
seize plan for advantage
mount offensive
transcend challenge and re frame it
easy catalyst
use as catapult
help others
do your best but be prepared for the worst
take verdict and move on
willpower
into existence
quiet humidity, resistance
discipline
endurance
understand purpose relief
acknowledge pain and trod onward
control what you can
good times, strengthen body, so that bad times can be endured
toughen up
strong resilient fearless
prepare when fortune shifts
pre mortum review
debrief
preventive
premeditated
reckon it
plan for defeat or victory
prepare for adversity
build durable for real life
anticipate endure
adjust reality based on limitations
life has traffic symbols
accept it don't brood upon it
cie la vie
real man necessity
its all good
don't emotion over it
accept unexpected cost
appreciate think what you have; how worse it could have been
nature commanded must be obeyed
learn to find joy in everything that happens
love of fate
not just expectations
tolerate and like adversity
perseverance
staying power
matter of will energy, endurance
persist and persevere
don't be worst enemy
if i cant solve it for ourselves, can we salvage good out for others?
not all about you all the time
unity over self
not myopia
sense of larger whole
not woe is me
you are not unique you are part of human experience
well aware of own mortality
playful relationship of existence
clarity and euphoria
pro clarity of existence
fear of death
remember you are mortal
glory to the grave
the more you accomplish, there are more obstacles
uphill, get used to it
one of many
make the next one easier
real perspective
worthy of more
better with every attempt
deliberate
anticipate, eager next round
fate is not fatal
destiny and freedom
stoicism
epictisis
cenica
if meditation is antique, we are ruins
throw away structured education , go to the seed of knowledge
philosophy, solve problems of life
not theoretically, practically
marcus realis
esoteric
have riches not riches have you
fear greed, dictate behavior not just a tool
anyone is mentor
apprenticeship is selling yourself for room and broad for learning
full time mentor is not good...part time job for them
questions for help, easy to do
ben Franklin effect
epicurean
stranger in strange land
what makes run
borrow most prized possession,
the guy has to convince himself in his mind that the person was worth the investment
therefore because of invested, the borrow is indebted even more for doing the favor and will do further favors
compounded interest on growth, do more things done earlier for self later
more things, 5 things, better at all of them sped process of learning, the things help each other to get done
multifaceted
walking is good for brain
only trust people who walk
biography of rockfella, ron sherao
sarah bakewell how to live
uss grant trump over adversity
fish that ate the whale banana king
edison Mathew Josephson
tough jews
Barnum street
productivity wake up early
maker vs manager
email better than phone
not if you can afford time, if you can afford distraction
love what yo do for doing it, be it. it is the essence of self and not just working
ryan holiday book list email
synopsis
write a lot being humidity
get feedback
compelling to say, not technical writing
no one else but you can bring
vulnerable authentic source
touch someone audience, write what you are afraid to say
daily rituals group book
fog of war
wall of sound phil specter
unknown known don Rumsfeld
ken burns doc
filter out material goals
perspective knowledge wisdom
do something interesting
keep taste under control, having enough
70k is comfortable
don't over spend
keep toxic people out of life
friends for dinner not bars
relax
how to game the system, college
leave of absence, not a drop out
college is like life gotta master the system
stoicism reddit
live in moment
war of art
meditation
what can you do with constraint and tendencies
taken for grated on behavior
job advice, relationship
trust me im lying
growth hacker marketing
letters of a stoic by senica, markus
practice virtue in impediment, which is expected but not permanent
attitude and approach
method and framework
humidity endurance passionate will
great people are improved by obstacles
soft, abundance entitled are
welcome conflict and expect it
perception deception will
nothing makes us feel this way,we choose to
you decide your own perceptions, thoughts, belief, reactions, you are not powerless
your mind remains your own
freedom from perturbation
gift of fear, what are you avoiding, worry over introspection
real is control and domestication of emotions
defeat emotions with logic
root causes
resourcefulness than anger
catch yourself if it isn't constructive
perceive not just observe
setbacks, issues, obstacles
think perceive act
examine before you act
mental training
see things as really are not just ornamentation
put them in proper place
dead meat, fermented wine
remove you from subjected parts
be objective at face value without baggage
lose the pity and sense of persecution
what your existence will be change situation
fear debilitating distracting
explain fear away
limit expand perspective not just isolated items
context, large picture of world
framing,
the tyranny of being picked
all hoping to solve their problem not his
be the answer to others not the other way around
specific role and accommodate
perception precedes action, right will follow right
control within your own circumstances and your responsibility
don't accept everything as final
take chance and make it happen
if you can change, muster it
unlikely and impossible, know the difference
argue and complain are choices
what is within out power is enhances it
challenge, make it best anyways
exist in the present, deal with situation at hand
focus on moment not monsters
don't spend day in explanation not just bad constructs
what is in front of you right now, ignore what it means or represents
reality is not bound by rules of people
life is malleable
aim high, rock the boat
your self has little bearing on what is possible or impossible
don't listen closely of others
be open, question
don't look for a way out, don't feel sorry for ourselves
believe in own ability to succeed
embody trait of being objective
reject first objections because first objections are fear
conventional wisdom too conservative
make something when nothing to look forward
give all you got
most creative when nothing to lose state
obstacles are opportunity
try new ways of communication with nothing to lose
outmaneuver them
appetite for risks and instincts
learn from bad bosses
safety net is going to be a new job anyways
adversarial growth
struggle is growth
mental flip
post traumatic growth
enemy is misconception, hurts less despite obstacle
rude disrespectful
conniving, no apology when u make example
critical, lower expectation easier to exceed
lazy, your actions are more admirable
didn't he underbelly of the negative in to the positive
nothing is bad as you think
see the world as what it is and what it is that you must act
directed action as a whole
best of courage
deliberation boldness persistence
action is cure to all predicaments
channel rage and pain into training
speak against wind, with pebbles, in one breath
lock yourself away until you are better
defensive wounds, out hands up to break fall instead of breaking face
don't complain, act
articulate solutions
don't let else to handle it, don't let obstacles sit there and un obstacle itself
act start now
do with what happens and what was given
shit into sugar
don't quit, don't feel sorry
don't be backed into a corner and force you hand because you have to, people have choices have paralysis
get back to work
don't let obstacle get stronger, it is a loan that compounds and get bigger if you don't act sooner
you are in debt of all the obstacles
action is paying it off
get momentum on your side
don't turn your nose at offensive offer or feel sorry for yourself
get going
take opening and triumph ahead
something better might come along? but you do nothing
the bells has been run
enemy s at your door , opportunity never shows up, obstacles show up
don't give enemies life
take the swing take the chance
stay moving, push ahead, bicycle effect
create momentum yourself
chisel until gone
genius is persistence in disguise
unity of purpose deafness of doubt
working at it works
don't give up change paths
persist efforts, resist other temptation
against impedance that lay siege to your own life
action fail is 2 sides on same coin
anticipation of failure hurts less
soft body and hard headed.. terrible
take failure as feedback
the way of failure shows what is the way
focus on process
pieces
do it well on what you need to do right now
don't over react focus on what to do next
conserve your energy on emotion
right here right now
don't worry about results or whole picture
do your job do it right
when action is priority, vanity disappears
prestige out, onerous, nothing is beneath us
do your job
answer well with right action
always act right
'
flexible fluid defiant
do the right way
pragmatic any ways that work
don't wait til conditions are right or when information is complete
do what you got
results
pinch what you want it to be and how it is right now
bridge the difference and stop complaining
all it matters accomplishment
when stakes are high, do dramatic measures
don't have to be straight line, don't look for perfect solution
just find what you want you want it to be like and where you want to go
do the best with what you got instead of the perfect
get it done and it works
radical practical
progress not perfection
make obstacles irrelevant
resistance is futile
only 6% battles are won with direct approach
face unfavorable condition against stalemate
find leverage
don't beat strength
calculated force where it would be effective
don't do brute forces, use proper resources
the hard way, the longest way around is the shortest way home
civil disobedience
don't attack , withdrawal and have it attack you,
exaggerate the weakness
make it counterproductive
power of opposites
ghandi, MLK
in defensive and evil
make obstacles defeat themselves
restraint and abstinence best option
don't push back, pull until they lose balance
don't challenge, find common ground
get support,
absorb other powers as our own
Russia retreating
don't push
solace
advantage
use bigness against itself
fortress vs prison
channel ability
don't give in to frustration, undermine rules
don't act out, act
physical looseness with constraint
tune out external stresses
mind like water move around things
seize the offensive, take chance
conjure and make chance servant
direct, neutralize negatives
don't less crisis squander, use the negative to get movement done
seize plan for advantage
mount offensive
transcend challenge and re frame it
easy catalyst
use as catapult
help others
do your best but be prepared for the worst
take verdict and move on
willpower
into existence
quiet humidity, resistance
discipline
endurance
understand purpose relief
acknowledge pain and trod onward
control what you can
good times, strengthen body, so that bad times can be endured
toughen up
strong resilient fearless
prepare when fortune shifts
pre mortum review
debrief
preventive
premeditated
reckon it
plan for defeat or victory
prepare for adversity
build durable for real life
anticipate endure
adjust reality based on limitations
life has traffic symbols
accept it don't brood upon it
cie la vie
real man necessity
its all good
don't emotion over it
accept unexpected cost
appreciate think what you have; how worse it could have been
nature commanded must be obeyed
learn to find joy in everything that happens
love of fate
not just expectations
tolerate and like adversity
perseverance
staying power
matter of will energy, endurance
persist and persevere
don't be worst enemy
if i cant solve it for ourselves, can we salvage good out for others?
not all about you all the time
unity over self
not myopia
sense of larger whole
not woe is me
you are not unique you are part of human experience
well aware of own mortality
playful relationship of existence
clarity and euphoria
pro clarity of existence
fear of death
remember you are mortal
glory to the grave
the more you accomplish, there are more obstacles
uphill, get used to it
one of many
make the next one easier
real perspective
worthy of more
better with every attempt
deliberate
anticipate, eager next round
fate is not fatal
destiny and freedom
stoicism
epictisis
cenica
if meditation is antique, we are ruins
throw away structured education , go to the seed of knowledge
philosophy, solve problems of life
not theoretically, practically
marcus realis
esoteric
have riches not riches have you
fear greed, dictate behavior not just a tool
anyone is mentor
apprenticeship is selling yourself for room and broad for learning
full time mentor is not good...part time job for them
questions for help, easy to do
ben Franklin effect
epicurean
stranger in strange land
what makes run
borrow most prized possession,
the guy has to convince himself in his mind that the person was worth the investment
therefore because of invested, the borrow is indebted even more for doing the favor and will do further favors
compounded interest on growth, do more things done earlier for self later
more things, 5 things, better at all of them sped process of learning, the things help each other to get done
multifaceted
walking is good for brain
only trust people who walk
biography of rockfella, ron sherao
sarah bakewell how to live
uss grant trump over adversity
fish that ate the whale banana king
edison Mathew Josephson
tough jews
Barnum street
productivity wake up early
maker vs manager
email better than phone
not if you can afford time, if you can afford distraction
love what yo do for doing it, be it. it is the essence of self and not just working
ryan holiday book list email
synopsis
write a lot being humidity
get feedback
compelling to say, not technical writing
no one else but you can bring
vulnerable authentic source
touch someone audience, write what you are afraid to say
daily rituals group book
fog of war
wall of sound phil specter
unknown known don Rumsfeld
ken burns doc
filter out material goals
perspective knowledge wisdom
do something interesting
keep taste under control, having enough
70k is comfortable
don't over spend
keep toxic people out of life
friends for dinner not bars
relax
how to game the system, college
leave of absence, not a drop out
college is like life gotta master the system
stoicism reddit
live in moment
war of art
meditation
what can you do with constraint and tendencies
taken for grated on behavior
job advice, relationship
trust me im lying
growth hacker marketing
letters of a stoic by senica, markus
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