nothing goes unnoticed by the universe. the separation between the have's and the have not's is the inaction of cognition. action cures fear
life is not a problem to be solved it's a reality to be experienced....word? umm sometimes maybe? not all the time? not sure about that one
my mind is so connected to my voice that i stream my consciousness out before thinking...i react to the words that i say because I say exactly how i feel, where i surprise myself...this is what freestyle rappers do or jay-z who don't write...crack the door and let god in...that high feeling...you dont have to do drugs to get high....there's speaker high
...wow, this book...I had to stop the audio just to savor this quote...."We live entirely, especially if we are writers, by the imposition of a narrative line upon disparate images, by the "ideas" with which we have learned to freeze the shifting phantasmagoria which is our actual experience.” -- Joan Didion, white album....who was this lady? i didn't even know about her until this quote...and of course, she went to berkeley
i was confused about explicit and implicit dispositions...which one was better? they covered both and said it varied by culture
this is dense...luckily, i watched enough through the wormhole / you are not so smart / tedex to catch most of the subtle details...some stuff i haven't heard before...mind blowing
the book was like, self alignment make people happier in what they do...obviously bad for extreme cases
also, chapter 2-3 was like when placing any implicit or explicit dispositions on children has the backfire effect and reverse psychology because you as parents can't overcompensate for their internal thoughts, but expose them to as much stuff as possible so that they get to choose their strengths based on what they like
basically, expose them to a bunch of stuff, like a montessori but they choose what they excel at, which could be vastly different from parental expertise and influence
the book is covering the part about the subjects watching a film with a pill-and-placebo study that makes you laugh more. the conflict between inferring your emotions based on self-watched behavior and basing self values on past preferences of previous film taste....past preferences wins out regardless of how much you laughed and they rated the film consistently with self-correcting value regardless of laughter,......wow
i have this immensely...i self-correct all the time when comparing and aligning my past self with present circumstances...i need to stop doing that for me to grow as a person because new experiences should change my mind on how i react to things
i covered this before. those who won the lottery has a negative slope back to equilibrium where you eventually even go negative past equilibrium as days go by. those who suffer tragedy has a positive slope towards equilibrium where overcompensation like creating a fund or donation foundation catapults you to the positive past equilibrium. the facebook effect of seeing yourself represent your best sides has an effect where you learn your consciousness through myopic filtering and see a trendline that isn't your true self -- you only connect your best traits where there are more points eliminated than represented...giving you illusions of grandeur that you are actually about that life...the rick ross effect
we are psychologically fit to not develop mood swings for a long time to stay in the moment and avoid danger in the next instance
called the opponent process. gain tolerance to good and bad things. becomes the background of your identity instead of an incident outside of your circumstance.
change world view of what is the definition of self...where some actions like going to the bathroom midsleep needs to be consciously thought over and coerced to do so and other instances where eating out of reflex is 2nd nature and didn't even have a thought process
it sucks that we try to emulate good things to happen to us by attracting those that qualify but then we gain a tolerance to good things happening so we become immune to it...basing a standard of a good meal goes higher in comparison to every new experience that is better, making pleasurable simplistic meals obsolete to better ones, making the lifestyle expensive as things rise lavishly...we can learn to cope or compartmentalize these standards outside the norm that we experience so as to not compare 3 star to 5 star restaurants but instead to 3 star to the mcdonalds on a more recent timeline
hindsight bias, seeing future events as predictable of what happened but when you're in the moment, you're sure to have it exaggerated
psychological immune system to fight and justify bad emotions, spin doctoring what happened to keep ego and not deplete it...durability bias. rationalize.
adaptive unconscious, many truths, personal narrative, we weave what we can observe, capture what we cannot observe, archeologist/narrative/or history as it was...construction of self inferred, introspection of self
deduce what they are looking for, based on emotion not words, not fully aware of preferences. non-conscious states...self introspection of consciousness obscures self....time darkness, evaluating, goes into shock, values distorted..gut feelings...self contemplation is a curse that makes self understanding worse. more like a process of construction and inference
writing about shit has better ways to express by catharsis rather than inhibition to express -- wow, i'm sooooo on the right track...gave it meaningful adaptive meaning
subliminal ads doesnt influence people, regular ads do. self introspection cant deduce this. familiar, independence, rebellion, makes susceptible to this. polluted. ..yea automatic prejudice makes it bad as people dig up shit of their unconscious attributes vs conscious
there's a way to be shy so that it's only more detrimental if you leave people in socially awkward situations rather than just talking to them,.....WOW...you can get shy enough to be on the other side ...puncture adapted illusions...just having the opinions of others doesnt improve self...we have to tolerate failure and frustration...dont get clear feedback from others because you can improve yourself based on self adaption
dont do periodic checks because we are not blind to our talents...only do it when really delusional. inflated or too negative self view makes it necessary for people to get the feedback of others. “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” "It seems to me, that if you tried hard, you would in time find it possible to become what you yourself would approve; and that if from this day you began with resolution to correct your thoughts and actions, you would in a few years have laid up a new and stainless store of recollections, to which you might revert with pleasure."
“How do I know what I think until I see what I say?” -- wow, putting the horse before the wagon for those people who say things just to react to what they have said..infer underlying traits based on behaviors. outside observer of heart and mind. introspection is absurd. if we were unaware, good. if we fabricate, bad. revise stories based on real feelings, grow and change for the better. change nonconsious states based on conscious egalitarian states
alter behavior first, do good, be good. made more effort to chat people. practice effect. change behavior change self perceptions, act as if you have it under control. fake it til you make it. do behavior first and let experience follow. change self definition based on social ties. change self conceptions. role models, change self image. care, competent people. self unconsciousness. change behavior and think less of yourself.
there is no true self. we live in the cross currents of conflicting narratives of particular relationships, time, and cultural circumstances, where some cases prove truer than others. adopt certain personas in certain circumstances. recognize unconscious goals, self biographer. self of mind, believability, adaptability .....fucking wow
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